Long, I'll address your post later. There is much to cover in that one, but I will just say this, calling evil or wrong by its name is not a "holier than though" approach. I will delve into that much deeper at a later time.

The OM may be right for my wife, but the circumstances by which they came together is wrong, a thousand times wrong, and if they remain together they will have to suffer the consequences for it. Like I said in a previous post, I am not condemning him or her. We all can change at the eleventh hour, but that does not negate what they have already done. And oh, it does not make me feel better to call what he has done evil...well, yes it does. I do get some sort of joy in telling the truth, even about my own actions. And angry, I truly seldom think about them these days. I have too much going on right now to waste my thoughts on him...or her (that may answer a lot of your other questions, but I will get to those later).

Chris, Dr. Paul Anderson is a therapist/Chaplain of the Navy. I spoke to him often about this situation. He has not written any books, but if you would like to speak to him I can arrange that. The book Rising Above Anger is by David B. Smith and was presented by Lonnie Melashenko.

I'm inclined to believe "this" because you suggested it many times in your posts.

Dr. David Clarke. His book is entitled, What To Do When Your Spouse Says, "I Don't Love You Anymore".

dtia:

"Long, I'll address your post later. There is much to cover in that one, but I will just say this, calling evil or wrong by its name is not a "holier than though" approach."

AGREED! But calling PEOPLE evil IS being holier-than-thou.

"The OM may be right for my wife, but the circumstances by which they came together is wrong, a thousand times wrong, and if they remain together they will have to suffer the consequences for it."

precisely why the stats say only 3% ever make it.

"We all can change at the eleventh hour, but that does not negate what they have already done."

This is true, and if they want 2 repair their broken lives, they'll have 2 make amends. But it is possible, and leving the bridges intact for your W 2 re2rn is sensible.

"And oh, it does not make me feel better to call what he has done evil...well, yes it does. I do get some sort of joy in telling the truth, even about my own actions."

Again, now you're talking about ACTIONS being wrong or evil, not PEOPLE. I agree with your statements here.

-ol' 2long

Solon, How's it going? what is new with you ? 2Long .. I followed up on this for a while and this part "I think you're a pitiful, evil twit", made me laugh .. I think most of us actually feel this way towrds our spouses Om or OW in one form or another... anyways D2IA just wanted to see how things are going..