Faith, hope you're doing a bit better. You've got to understand that there has to be boundaries in place. It's hard enough being a divorced mom of one child and can only imagine how it would be to be a d'd mom of adult kids feuding right now.

But you're going to have to put boundaries in place. NC means NC. I don't believe it to be completely appropriate here. You do need to deal with the x for finances or PERTINENT AND IMPORTANT , not mundane issues regarding kids and finances.

That is the key. Not NC, but little contact.

And to your daughter, a different view, I agree completely with the previous poster who said that your mom was emotionally abused by your dad. And she's acting out from that abuse. And it does cause side effects, if you can understand this.

But ADV, there is something very strange about your continued posting here. You're NOT divorced nor are you even married and are barely an adult. You don't understand her side of the issues. You think you do because she's your mom, but everybody can't always assume these kinds of things as you have done.

I also believe you too were emotionally abusede. And whoever brought you here to MB was pretty darn wrong imho. This is to be a safe place for adults going through the trials and situations related to divorce on this board. Sure, anybody can read here or post, but it is really unusual and almost inappropriate. Please learn how to communicate with your mother other than by the internet.

I am not sure what to say here. Other than diminished contact for your x faith and to open up and speak to your kids, there's not much more. Has your doc put you on meds to help you regain clear thinking? I want to know and hope that this is happening. As a health care professional, I see the direct impace each day of antidepressants on the lives of my patients. Many of whom are depressed b/c of a serious diagnosis given them and or a life threatening situation. And it does so much for them. Please, please check on this and do something about it instead of getting a different pain med for the shoulder.

FOCUS ON YOU and the kids. Take the focus off of whjat x is doing and what is happening in his l ife. Whocares if the guy posts here or not? We would like to see you move ahead.

I also see a bit of btw...in the daughter of a bit of oppositional defiance in her. There is much anger in her posts and I see a bit of manipulation as well. And that would come from seeing and hearing years of emotional abuse in the home btw.