No, not a psychologist. But even better - I have the skinny because I work from inside. That's right, I am a LOON!

Go and read the MB principles, Plan A & B and you will see that dating pursuing others is not the way. Work on yourself. Do not drag an innocent party into this situation. Do not allow any more confusion into the lives of your children. Be single. Very single. Like I said, work on yourself, find a men's support group, post to separated men here on MB.
Good luck. Stay sane. (Like I would know what that was <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> )