You always say the nicest thing to me, and I appreciate it so much.
I am indeed struggling these days with this weeks upcoming test.
She has been having headaches again lately, and that puts me on edge.
I think for her, they are pretty normal, but it does cause me stress.

This guy sounds pretty great! And your right, once we hit a certain age it doesn't matter. If you were in your 20's and he was that much younger, it would be different. But, I say, take it slow, and see where it goes.

Again, not trying to up ya, but the guy I dated was that way. That is part of the reason he is so hard to get over. He did it all, from flowers, to gifts, to dinners, everything. I know I will never find anyone who will treat me as well.
It's all a timing thing.
I'm not marking him off my life 100%. I just don't know where the time in between will take us.
Either one of us could end up with someone else.

You held out on me with the roses! You never told.
I would have to venture to say, he is after you!
And I think its GREAT!
You deserve to be treated wonderful.
Enjoy it Still!

Hope your day is going well.

I will talk to you soon.
K.

Karona-

This must be so stressful for you. I have been blessed to never have sick children. I can't imagine how I would handle it. I know that if I had gone through what you have with your daughter I would worry over every little thing. I am amazed at how you handle this and everything else.

I guess I would say I am becoming highly infatuated right now. It was weird as it all just came to the surface after I ended things with the XBF. It is fun and romantic. Being treated like this is addictive. I can see why you would have a hard time giving it up. However, as you know, it is only part of the package. So far I like what I see of this guy. I am hoping as I get to know him better that the whole package will turn out as good as what I've already experienced. I am hoping that we are both able to find that. We sure do deserve it!

newly-

How was NY? Did you go with the new man? Either way, how fun!

You ladies have a great night!

Take care and God bless!
K

OOOps Newly,
I'm sorry I didn't go up high enough and see that you had a note.

I appreciate your kind words.
My daughter is so strong, and very inspirational.
She struggles all the time with her life changes, as do I, but all in all, she handles it so well.

Thank you again for your thoughts. They are appreciated, and needed.

K.

Have a great night Karona. Your daughter sounds like an amazing girl. She must get her spirit from her mom! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Take care and God bless!
K

Hey K and SR! Tomorrow is first day at new job...almost went in erroneously today but then saw that I was to report in MARCH 1.. not today, tomorrow...so I hit snooze and went to sleep. Had late aft. meeting w/attorney about issues regarding finances and what the x did...in end, had to file bank. Yep. I of all people had to. But it was only way since x had left me high and dry after his H1 was repo'd 2 years ago...It was resold for 20k less than it was worth and company went after me b/c I was only "person" on the title...it was in xh's company's name and my name...and when his A happened, he decided he wanted a new vehicle. So he quit paying for the Hummer. Was repo'd from his house...He made every payment. So this company came looking for me for the 20k...not realizing I was now a single mom, divorced from the man who made all payments, even signing his name for "his" vehicle and getting the insurance in his name...Couldn't go after a company so they chose me. And my attorneys knew it was lousy. We even had judge make my write into decree of divorce that xh was financially responsible for H1. Not me. X even agreed on that part. Meanwhile, it ruined my creditworthiness and we couldn't get it dropped after many times trying. In end, the other company was going to sue me, and we'd have to turn around and sue my xh...and risk my wages being taken from me for a vehicle I never had in my possession. He did that, my x on purpose. What a wonderful guy huh? I tell you, my life was like War of the Roses for about 2 years.

Keep my in prayers b/c tomorrow is day 1 of new job! Yippee! I get to report in to work at seven am! But I get off early..so that's good. It's in a large department and there are 9 people who do what I do there..three girls and six guys. So it will be nice for a change not being alone or running the whole department with no backup.

Talked to xbf, or cf (current friend)..heck, I don't even know what anacronym to use for him yet...he's the xbf but he's trying to be present guy...no committment yet so he's the N.C.Y.X.B.F. (no committment yet x boyfriend). NCYXBF was in e.r. today dealing with heart attack patient so we said about five words and that's it..."I'll call you later, in er. Got CP patient. Bye". Still Reeling, it is waaaaay cool that the guy is treating you so well. I am so happy for you! I think my NCYXBF shall keep getting the new peach and my reactions...a bit "refined" now since last time we dated. Remember what Dr. Phil says...WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US...thus, you're doing a good job teaching him. That's what I am trying to do now. I am being a bit independent. He's noticed it. He said I am maybe now almost too independent...but that makes him want to try a bit harder now ironically.

And yes, saw him friday evening. Was good. He was very very sweet. He went out w/his best friend...and roommate...get my email from Karona if you want to SR...

How my new health thing going? Well good so far...relapsed this morning when I realized it was not march 1. I ate 3 dunkin doughnut donut holes. One was jelly filled! Whoo hoo. The flaxseed oil (tbsp a day) is keeping my plumbing quite operational. To say the least. Am getting ready to go to gym. Weather here in atl is awful...cold again and rainy.

So the NCYXBF is going to get...ta da! A w hopping 6 months...I have decided to give no longer than six months to see if he's capable of changing anacronyms to XBFNCBF *(x boyfriend now committed boyfriend)...we shall see. And have decided I will only go out with other people if they REALLLLY make my pulse skip a bit. No more going out unless that happens. After consulting with a few buddies, including MB buddies here, it is best I don't close options...but at same time, gotta be true to myself.

K==when I am emailing Dr. Tim, one of my best buddies in world right now @ daughter's condition and get his .02...he's still working now, but will probably get back to me late tonight on it. Love ya both! And all our friends here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Peachy,

I think this whole deal with your x is awful! To say the very least.
I'm very sorry that you continue to have to live in his mistakes.
It will make you stronger in the end. Keep your faith.

Oh goodness! You had doughnuts, and I had ice cream. I almost never have that. But, tonight, I did! with chocolate, carmel, and peanuts! I did it all!! Then I hopped on the treadmill!

The flax seed oil sounds yummy! YUCK!

I think your on to something with the dating thing.
I'm not experienced with dating what so ever, but I would think it would be hard to go with some one that you didn't click with.
But then again, I'm not real outgoing either. I struggle with that.

I will think of you tomorrow. You will breeze through it!

K.

Hi ladies-

Well Peachy how did the new job go? I'm sure you did just great! Sorry to hear about the financial woes. I had the pleasure of filing for bankruptcy while I was married due to my now XH's astronomical gambling losses. It still gets to me to this day because it comes up whenever I apply for credit and he seemingly has no problems with it. Consider yourself lucky to be rid of Jethro, no matter how much $&*% he puts you through!

I hear you on the dating stuff. I agree with the part on teaching people how to treat you. I think all too often we assume that people are mind readers and so we let things slide and before we know it we are stuck in bad habits that make us miserable. How is the dating going? I have a question. Do you find it awkward dating multiple people? I know most experts say that you should, but I never have been able to do it. I don't know I was just wondering. And then how do you continue to date multiple people when you are starting to have stronger feelings for one, but before you have a exclusive commitment? I don't know. I guess I just have a lot of questions re-entering the dating scene. I do think that was part of my problem with my last BF though. He was the first person I dated after my divorce and after we started I never dated anyone else.

As for the junk food. I have been trying to be good, but the other night as you ladies were indulging I was pigging out on caramel brownies. There must have been something going on that night!

Karona- Keep us posted on your daughter. I am praying that all goes well.

newly- Where's that update on NY?

By the way, I had dinner with the man last night. It was casual, but a lot of fun. I could really get used to this! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I better run! Have a great day!

Take Care and God bless!
K

Update: I went into NYC on Sat with BF to see the Gates. It really was awesome to see up close. The color was so vibrant, and quite a contrast to the bare trees, and leftover snow. We walked around quite a bit and ended at the Metropolitan Museum of Art - which supposedly had a great rooftop view (not).
He enjoyed the Met, and we'll likely go back. (Trigger - on my honeymoon, took X to a fabulous museum and all he could say was "someone's old garbage").
This guy is so nice and thoughtful. He bought me a book of photos of the gates to hang in my new office. And we saw the artist's in the central park restaurant - definitely a perk.
BF has a great memory, so if I mention a movie or something - he files it away and follows through on things. I'll definitely need to watch what I say. (I told him I'm not a flower person - so no flowers for V-day. Other gifts instead).

He hates talking about X, but seems to have his number on things like X canceling his time with kids due to our recent snowstorm. (He's scheduling our time around X's inability to care for his own kids).

I'm still infatuated and truly enjoying the experience.

I hope everyone is doing well this week. Sledriding is good in my area.

Newly,
Thanks for the update. Your trip sounds truly wonderful!
I'm so happy for you that you are experiencing this happiness.

I want to go to NYC so bad. I almost went with the guy I had been dating, as he had a business trip there, but I always feel like I shouldn't put my kids second. and, in the full time care of their dad. I need to change my way of thinking.

Still,
OH my goodness, You had an official date!
I'm SO happy for you. That is great. And you sound so happy with the current situation.

I read your post to Peachy. I have had those same questions. I can't imagine dating more than one person at a time, as I have never done that before. I have read that that is what we should do, but I don't know that I could handle it.
But, as for me, that is not a problem since I don't seem to have the offers lined up.

I'm starting to wonder if these younger guys fall harder than ones closer to our age? It's only a thought. I just know for me, this guy fell hard.

I know all this attention is making you feel so special, and you deserve every bit of it.
Please keep us posted.
I'm happy for you Still.

Your Buddy,
K.

So K, plan a trip to NY with SR and we'll plan to have a few people from MB meet up with us.
I'm on the way into Manhattan, with enough notice, you and SR could stay with me.

I WOULD ABSOLUTELY LOVE TO! And I'm very serious.
I would love to take a girl trip to NYC.

If she is up for it, so am I.

Wouldn't it be a blast?!

Lets see what Still says!

K.

Hey ladies-

It sounds like NY and your new man were awesome newly. It is so great to hear you so happy.

NY huh? I wonder what it would cost for me to get there from WI. It would be fun though. It would be nice to put some faces on all you wonderful ladies!

I hope I didn't come across as harsh in the dating questions. I just have never dated more than one person and wonder what it is like. Like Karona though I never have multiple offers so I guess I don't have to worry about it!

Karona- I don't know what it is, maybe it is the fact that they are younger, but whatever it is it is nice! Good luck tomorrow with your daughter! You are in my prayers.

I have to run.

Take care and God bless!
K

Hey Still~~

I think we should check it out. I have to come from WV, so we are a little in the same boat.
Let me know what you think.
Gosh, If I did this, it would be speading my wings BIG TIME!!

I didn't think you sounded harsh at all. I took it all well.
I have wondered the same questions myself.
I don't know that I could go out with more than one at a time. I don't mean anything negative about anyone who does, it's my personal opinion of myself.

I'm glad you took what I said about the younger guy thing well.
I meant it with best intentions.
Keep us posted on how this is all going.

It has been a real treat today trying to get my D's appt all squared away for tomorrow.
Upsetting to say the least.
My x changed insurance as of 01/05, he got one cheaper.
The previous one needed NO pre authorization. It hit me on Tuesday, that maybe this new one does.
So, I called the company, and while I have custody of my girls, and the primary parent, I can not get or give information from the insurance co., because we are divorced, and it's his insurance, he has to do it.
X has never dealt with any of this stuff. And he has to get put in the middle.
I had to work today, and it was a snow day so the girls were at home. Poor girl had to take the calls today from the MRI and Neurosurgeon about the confusion. She already is nervous, and now is worried about the other crap that is adult stuff.

Anyway, I got back into the middle with the doctors. I can't sit back while nothing is happening. Last I heard from the neuro office was that they got the letter faxed to the them from her reg. doctor, and I don't need to go pick up this letter. (this was around 1 ish)

X calls me at 5:30, says, the forms will be ready for pick up in the morning. I said, are you going to get them?? He was shocked!
I'm assuming the office doesn't open until 8 maybe, I have to be on the road at 7:45 for her MRI.
He is so clueless. When we were married, these things all just worked. Things are so major after divorce I swear.

So, now I'm more nervous, as I don't know if the forms have been faxed, or if we really are supposed to bring them with us.

It hurts my stomach.

Thank you again for keeping us in your thoughts.
I will be thankful when tomorrow is over.

Fondly,
K.

Hi All!

GREAT NEWS, The MRI came out clear. This would only be the initial reading from the neurologist. The official will come in about a week. But,
Things look great.

I can breathe so much easier this afternoon.

As far as the paper work, x did go get the papers this morning, so he was a little late to the appointment. But, at least he handled it.

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

I know I'm blessed!

K.

So, celebrate with a trip to NYC.
I drive through Wheeling, WV at least four times per year to visit my family. It's only a 5-6 hour drive from me. And Wisconsin is definitely a flight.

I am glad to hear that things went well Karona. I am also glad to hear that your XH came through. Better late than never.

We will have to check into this NY thing a little more.

Have to run.

Take care and God bless!
K

Newly, you are quite excited about this!
So, you have family here eh? That's neat!!

Wheeling is 1 1/2 hours from me I believe.
I went to Cabela's once, and the Island thing.
Other than that, I don't know much about Wheeling.

I will check out flights.
I would love to meet you two in person.

Thank you Still!
Yes, he did come through, but he put me through stress to get there.
I think he so enjoys feeling superior. Like he still has the upper hand.

I will let you both know what I find out.

K.

Okay Newly, Help me??

Where in NY would I fly into??

I told you, this is spreading my wings big!

Thanks,
K.

Hey Still and friends,

Just wanted to check in and see how your weekend went, and what is happening new if your life.

Write when you can.

K>

Hey ladies-

I had a good, busy, and expensive weekend. We traveled across the state for a basketball tournament of my oldest daughters. I guess it was a mini-vacation with two nights in the hotel, shopping, and going out to eat.

How about you? Did you get the final results back for your daughter yet?

Nothing new and exciting here, I have been too busy being mom and am now playing catch up. I may have a date tonight and possibly this weekend though so things are looking up! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I am beginning to enjoy this second childhood!

Well, I better run.

Take care and God bless!
K