Highflight, how about making a list of hobbies and classes, things you'd like to do for yourself, places you'd like to go where you will meet people of similar interests? What is really worth having doesn't come easy, it might take time but I'm sure there's a very nice, honest, caring woman out there for you. When you are ready, you will meet her, doing what you are already doing for yourself.

Yes, it does seem like our ex's should get together. But they wouldn't really be interested in one another now would they? I feel like my husband chose me on purpose, I came from a good family, I was never married, I was naive and in love with life. I had no clue he'd cheat on me, that he cheated while we dated long distance. That he would be so mean and controlling. He wanted to bring me down, and I'm not staying down. But I don't think he'd chose someone at his low level, doesn't sound like your ex would either or would she?

I'm going to go reread the Christian book on safe people, I can't think of the name of it, you might want to read it too. Ironically my mom gave it to me while dating my husband to be, hint, hint, she saw what he really was, I didn't. Next time around I will SEE IT. But I won't even date, like you, unless it's a Christian, with serious values and morals. I will RUN like hell if anyone even resembles my manipulative husband. If anyone talks so big and is so full of it.

There has to be nice people out there, I do think my old aunt was right, there's just as man nice men as women... it's finding them.