</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Hurt and Scared:
<strong>Does anyone think i am setting myself up for another heartbreak? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you don't take this opportunity to work on yourself, then it will cycle around again. Five days ago she was ready to leave, what changed her mind? Did her mind change or did she 'submit/accept' the situation?

She's raised some serious concerns and you've validated those to me, at least. So from my limited knowledge of you and life I'm drawn to two conclusion:

1. She's bi-polar
2. She's cycled through and we are beginning the roller coaster ride again.

Now that being said, you've also mentioned that you've made some changes. The only thing you can do right now is to continue to work on yourself, STOP ALL ANGRY OUTBURSTS, avoid Love Busters, STOP DISREPECTFUL JUDGMENTS, and mature as man, husband, and father. The one thing I guarantee is that if nothing changes, nothing will change.

BTW have you done reading on this site? Have you read His Needs/Her Needs? Are you working on making deposits in her love bank?

You should definitely get Individual Counseling. Also, let her know that you are getting counseling and that you are sorry for all of the things you have done wrong and all ofthe things you have domne to hurt her. Let her know you want to be a better person and a better Father even if she does not decide to work things out with you. When you give your spouse the freedom to not be with you while at the same time letting them know you do love them and wish it would work and you are sincerely working on being the best person you can be their attitude can completely change. When a person feels pressured, trapped, or smothered they are not likely to want to come back. Give her some space and prove to her that you are sorry and that you are changing.

I have made many changes. The reason I know that the changes are real and not just a ploy to keep her around is this: I don't think ahead of time that I should do this or do that to make her happy, I just do it! I don't have to think about or force myself to do things. It just seems to come natural. I feel that the readings have helped me a lot. I am a new man and not just overnight or since she said she was moving out. I have been for months now. I think of myself as a great person now. I'm less worried about what people think and more worried about knowing for myself who I am, what I am, and what i have done. She notices all the differences in my behavior and my attitude.

That's the plan Stormy. I will give her anything she wants whether its time, space or both. I will wait for her. I will love her no matter what till the day I die...

She knows I am sorry. She knows that I would do anything to make it better. I am willing to give anything for her to see what a changed man I am.