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Hi all! Apparently, Tough Love 1 ran out of space on the MB, so I am starting part 2 of Tough Love for the participants from the old forum and new comers. I had to do some investigation to find out what was going on.
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Petvet, We've been looking for you and didn't know how to contact you. Check here for updates about thread problems: MB Magnolia Moderator help needed And here is where we had begun to post: Tough love? But I like the title "Tough Love 2" like you stared, without the question mark. It seems more definitive. I'll direct everyone (those who had posted on the original thread) here.
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Hi All Y'all! Although I generally post on 'The Kingdom Of Caerlon' I wanted to stop by and offer my sympathies for you losing your Original Thread. I hope everyone here has a good day and that this new 'Tough Love' thread lasts a very very very looooooooooong time!!
God bless,
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Hi All,
Found the thread... so here I am.
Sauron...
Thanks for your invite, and sympathies for our old thread.
Don't be a stranger.
How's everyone doing?
Hope all of you had a great weekend.
Stay Strong!
Wallace
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Hello there!
Good luck with this tread! Hopefully it will continue as long as the Kindom.
Hey Petvet, I am assuming you are a vet! If you are, I have a quick question for you. A friend of mine has barn cats. They all have respiratory infections. How can I get them treated cheap? One is pregnant!
So what is this thread all about? I am sort of new to the Divorce side. I have been posting on JFO for about two years. Some of you may know me. But that sad time is right around the corner for me!
Bye for now!
Ali~
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Hi all! I was not too happy that the original thread had to bit the dust, but I gues MB has its limitations. Avondale: I'm glad you found version 2 of Tough Love. How are you doing? Wallace: What's up with you? How is the lady friend? Ali88: Even though I am not a vet (Biology kill me in college, so I had to give up my dream; however, I show dogs. I don't have any quick remedies, but I recommend you check www.upco.com. They have a ton of medications for animals that don't require a prescription. Wild cats can spread diseases you know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Be careful! Version 1 and now 2 of this thread has been in operation for at least two years I think. It's a community of folks who are experiencing marital issues with wondering spouses(WS) and need advice and support from folks who have gone through the same situation. Some of us like myself are divorce. We also try to support those who are making the transition from married to the divorce status. Sauron: Welcome! Me: I am doing well. I missed everyone. Later.
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Hi PetVet! Thank you for your most kind invite regarding this Thread. I humbly accept and will be happy to be a part of 'Tough Love 2' -- and may I add that both my wife & I are avid animal-lovers, namely, 'Man's (or Woman's) Best Friend' our 4-legged pooches commonly known as DOG. Both of us have been thru Divorce, etc. and we are thankful to God that He saw fit for us to meet each other and finally realize what true Marriage is supposed to be. We both still have baggage from past hurts of those marriages, however, we work thru them one day at a time. Again, "THANK YOU!" for your invitation. On the other thread I am a member of, "The Kingdom Of Caerlon" I spin tunes lyrics and just generally hang out... Blessings, Peace, Long life and Happiness, as well as Healing to all who abide here... Sauron <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Oh, yeah, BIG animal lover here too!
Petvet, Do you want a chessie, blk lab/golden mix?? He is great dog. Needs manners! He is also brindle. ??? I saw the parents and the grandparents. Many people argue with me that he cannot be the three breeds that I mentioned and be brindle. But he is!!!
My sister has border collies. One is a "confirmation" BC. Can you say brat? What kind of dogs do you show?
Thanks for that site. My friend picked up the cats from people who didn't want them. So they're not wild kitties. Thank God!
Thanks for that site, I will check it out!
Ali~
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Well, here we are at a new thread <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'm going to try to pick up where we left off...in question form! Leah - What ever happened to the trip your H was going to make w/co-worker? Has that happened yet? Is your tougher stance working? Wallace - I knew your "breakup" wouldn't last! Petvet - Are you staying on top of the taxes? I didn't know you showed dogs! What breed? Relady - Have you planned your trip yet? Where did you decide to go? Trusting - I haven't heard from you in a while except for the UBB links. Are you doing OK? How are your kids? Please post soon! Stacy - How are you doing? I know the beginning stages of Plan B are rough, there are so many questions. It's a fine line of doing Tough Love and doing it with love. Me - Doing well. Just finished a yard renovation. I would like some input from y'all...Knowing what you know about me, and how long I "waited" for my H, how would you answer this? If I saw my exH in the grocery store, what should I do? </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I could duck into another aisle to avoid any awkwardness.</font></li>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I could sail on without acknowledging him</font></li>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I could say "hi" and/or talk (which I don't want to do)</font></li>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> OK, before you start thinking about the fact that I shouldn't be the one feeling awkward, or hiding from him, or whatever, please know that I already know that. It would just be less stress for ME to not interact. I know some of you haven't seen your ex since they left, but maybe you have friends who've been in this situation. I just KNOW I'm going to see him now that he's moved nearby, and I wish I didn't have that to worry about. I want to be prepared when the inevitable happens. Thanks! <small>[ March 08, 2005, 01:43 PM: Message edited by: avondale25 ]</small>
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Hi Everyone, Welcome to the newcomers, Ali and Sauron. It's always nice to hear from others. Avondale, In answer to your question, they are on their trip now. I'm struggling a bit but trying to think the right thoughts. I'm not sure how "tough" a stand I'm taking right now. I have definitely tried some new strategies. I've dropped back a lot in my responses to H. ( Far less questioning, keeping my opinions and thoughts much more private, not arguing with him about anything ) It has been challenging keeping so much inside but it has also been MUCH more peaceful. H has repeatedly spoken very positively toward me and others regarding me. He says things like how excited he is to have me as his wife again. He says how he looks forward to coming home and other such comments. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> He has also been much more respectful,responsive and kind to me. So that part is good. But... I'm not quite sure how I feel about everything. I don't know if what I'm doing is truly producing an authentic relationship or just a mute woman with a free husband. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I guess I'm still trying to figure out me and who I really am and what I'm suppose to be. I'm afraid that is where I spend a lot of time. About your situation... it sounds as if you really aren't ready for any type of interaction with your husband. For that reason, I would go with your first possible suggestion. Just find another aisle to duck into. Ignoring him would probably seem rude. Talking to him would probably be awkward for you. So, your first scenario sounds like the winner to me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I hope you continue to do well as you move forward in your life. How I pray that the most difficult days are behind you and that you can find renewed peace and happiness as you look forward to the warmer days of spring. God bless! Hi Petvet, Wallace, Relady and Trusting Him, Hopefully everyone will find their way to this new thread and join us here. Take care!
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Hi everyone! Just wanted to say 'Howdy!' to everyone here.. Ali - kool, I didn't know you had a Border Collie - they're beautiful animals. We have one too - very nice markings; she's black, white, and a little brown, with very long hair. She loves 'herding' our other 3 doggies! I believe the rest of the original posters here will return soon... And you have 2 NEW posters here - one of these days I'll fill in all the blanks on my Divorce - sure, it happened 6 1/2 years ago, but there are still issues with it, even though I've not spoken to nor seen my ex-Wife since the Divorce was final.. "My Heart Will Go On" and it does.. thanks Celine Dion for that great song..
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Hi all! Ali: Oh know, I don't need anyother type of breeds. My dogs take up enough room by themselves. I have Alasken Malamutes. Wallace: Breakup! Did I hear breakup? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Leah: You are a brave woman. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Avondale: Believe me madam, your mindset is the same as mind when it comes to the ex. Options one and two are ok. Option 3: only if there's a gun to your head. My opinion is since they threw the relationship away during the marriage, they have demonstrated that they don't give a damn about the BS; as a result, why should I waste my time interacting with someone who treated me like dirt. I don't owe them anything. That's my two cents. Me: Everythings is ok. Later.
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Sauron and Ali,I love dogs too! We have two, a ****zu and a lasso. They are part of the family. They have given much love and affection during some of our difficult years. Glad you've both joined our thread. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Petvet, Brave or Stupid?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Sometimes maybe a little of both? How are you surviving tax season? Aren't you an accountant? Take care!
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Oh how funny! I just saw I've been edited for the first time - My dog's breed!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Oh my. Leah2be you are a card! I'm ROTF here when I saw you got 'edited' for a dog breed. I know what breed that is..
LOL I think EVERYBODY spells it that way, coz that is surely how we pronounce it! hehehehee
Alaska Malamute - they are beautiful dogs. I lived in Alaska - that is where I obtained FREEDOM from my EX-Wife, but while I lived there, I followed both the 'big' dog-sled races, the Yukon Quest and the Iditarod - both good races and I love Malamutes - they're strong dogs who sure can pull a sled!
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Hey all, I see everyone is back on track and brought newcomers. Wallace Come on, tell the truth! You figured out a way to wipe out the history of the original "Tough Love" thread, so we wouldn't be able to make you eat your words, again and again and again! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> The last I read was you had broken up again, Which is it now? I'll trust you to update me! Avondale I haven't made any final plans yet, RCL hasn't gotten back to me yet on the exchange. They usually let me know around May. Petvet That is soooo funnny!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I also thought you were a vet! Imagine my surprise when I found out you were an accountant! Leah2be Has your H contacted you since he has been gone or have you called him? Newcomers Welcome! relady
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Hi Relady, Glad to hear from you again. My H has returned from his trip. I was a good little girl and refrained from calling. I've really backed way off and it seems to be working! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> He called a few times and was very happy to come home. He said he missed me and that we'll have to plan a trip back to this one spot he visited. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> He's been very positive and upbeat. I'm trying to take all his actions at face value and NOT question anything. I'm enjoying the present state of things and keep praying my way through it.
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Hey everyone, Sorry for not posting lately, but boy, have I been busy at work, and at home. Petvet...I knew you were not a vet, but I didn't know that you showed dogs. I have an Aussie, and this dog is wired for sound. He likes to herd people around by nipping their butts while he is vhasing them around when we are outside. The Dog is smart... I'll tell you that... he in fact thinks he is human. In regards to my G/F... you heard correctly... we did kinda sorta break up... this relationship is sinking fast IMHO. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> avondale...In regards to your question about your "H", and what should you do when you run into him (keep in mind... I haven't seen nor spoken to my exW since we split up), so this is coming from a person that probably would just walk right on by her, and not utter a word. I think you will need to acknowledge he's there, by being courteous and saying, "Hello"! Then just keep right on walking. If he sees that your trying to dodge him... he's going to think that your losing it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Sauron...I noticed that there are many of us on these boards that haven't seen nor spoken to their ex-spouses since all the wonderfulness went down. I know why I haven't seen nor spoken to mine... I don't want to... I have absolutely nothing to say to her... even if I did run into her in a store. Hey! Are you still living in Alaska? Leah... Hehehe... oh you have one of those type of dogs... LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> That was pretty funny that it edited out the breed of Dog you have. You must of meant a sheetzoo! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Glad to hear that your "H" seems to be coming around. Keep doing exactly what your doing... don't change a thing. I know it's hard, but if your "H" is faking it... he will let his guard down eventually. Give it some time and see how it checks out. Alli...Glad to see you posting here... we always like to hear from everyone when they get the time. relady...How's all your businesses doing? Oh... I might have hijacked the old "Tough Love" thread. I tried to post, and that was the end of it. I kinda miss the old thread... know we can't go back and see what we had said during any given time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It just breaks my heart. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> All kidding aside... I hope they can at least get it up as a read only thread. Stacey...How are you making out? Haven't heard a peep out of you for awhile. Hopefully you can find this thread, and post. Trusting Him...I noticed that you got a post in the old thread... after it went down. How did you do that? Let us know how your making out. To all, and any that I might have missed... hope your day is going well. Stay Strong! Wallace
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Me? Live in Alaska? NOT!
The WICKED Witch Of The North still lives there and she has caused our kids soooooo much damage as well as tried her very best to split up my own Blood Family from me.. But she failed..
I live in Granbury, Texas - where the weather is (usually) warm and the people here are much friendlier than the ones in Alaska were...
Only thing I miss about Alaska are the Northern Lights - they are awesome! The rest of the state can melt and fall off into the ocean for all I care heheheee.
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