Small threadjack -

Deja, what kind of dogs do you have?

Also, maybe this has already been suggested, but LL have you any interest in volunteer work? It's a great place to find singles, Habitat for Humanity, or organizations that offer community service as part of their culture...it's a great way to meet new people and break the awkwardness of doing something new...if you're doing something new to help others.

Neat people do volunteer work; and they're usually passionate about the work they do!

<small>[ March 23, 2005, 12:14 PM: Message edited by: CSue ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lordslady:
<strong> Okay, but how do I go about that? Perhaps dumb, but serious question.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Actually, it isn't a dumb question at all. Makes me draw back from my memory banks a bit, but we'll see if I can do that. I would say, post here often, find the people that you can relate to and have conversations with them. I honestly can't tell you how some people originally got my e-mail address, but it's probably because we had became online buddies and so I, like many, created a separate hotmail account, and started giving it out.

Now it's on my signature line. Of course, you need to be cautious about giving out any personal information but I have some real buddies out there. We started by simply talking on the boards, some moved to e-mail, some went to phone calls, and some have led to meeting in real life. And still today, though I'm not around as often as I used to be, I still get new e-mails from people who are offering support when I do post or wanting to ask a question because of what I've been through.

Now for the warning..... I've also seen some of our wonderfully emotional MB buddies meet up and not so good things happen to help them in their personal recovery.......

But I would like for you to look at one more thing. If you have a moment, go back through this entire thread and look at the outpouring of love, support, and suggestions. As is the case with many of your posts, there is an outpouring and I, for one, feel that sometimes you are quick to justify a reason why you can't do something rather than try to figure out why you can do something, leaving you stuck. This seems to be a pattern, IMHO. If you see that and agree with that, then let's work on it....

Ali88,

Actually I take A/D's already. I've been clinically depressed a couple times or so, but more have a problem with anxiety, often for absolutely no reason. It just hits, out of the blue. This doesn't feel like true depression (where I absolutely couldn't think about the future but just wanted to sit and rock). I'm not dying of sadness. It's sort of hard to describe. I just don't really like who I am.

CSue,

Volunteering hasn't really been suggested as such on this board (or at least I don't think it has), but has by friends of mine. My problem is that when I think about that and how I should do it, I just feel that much more overwhelmed. But I have considered looking into volunteering someday, once life and my daughter settle down more, at an animal shelter. Not much for meeting singles there, but I love animals.

LH,

Okay, I'll think on all that. I may create a second msn email account to put on here, so that I don't give out my main one.

And yes, I think you are right that I sometimes get stuck instead of looking at what I can do. I'm afraid to take steps sometimes. It's probably why I took so long making a decision to DV, and why I never really did a plan B.

Gotta go back to work, and then when I log on again the board will be down. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

So I guess I'll see you all on Saturday (or at least some of you), and let's hope the conversion goes well. If this board disappears for good, I'll go NUTS!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

LL