Quick...I just got back from our family session.. H not going to do ANYTHING about patrenity unless SHE does!!! o happy day<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Congratulations Gem, that's great news. We will continue to keep you and your family in our prayers, especially as May gets closer.<P>Tigger

Gem,<P>I have been waiting all day to hear how things went. I hope you will write more and give us more information when you get some time. Congrats on the little bit of good news that you got. Can't wait to hear more. I hope that you have a great evening. <P>babstr.

Ya yhoo for you and your family thats great news gem so happy for you guys. <P> with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>`Look ahead or you will find yourself behind.

Just wanted to say Congrats Gem! I'll keep you and your family in my prayers! I hope things keep getting better for you! Keep your chin up! <P>God Bless!<BR>Aloneandsad

Thanks guys...I'll post more tomorrow.<P>My son went first and exploded with anger on how us 3 are a family that the C is nothing but a huge mistake he did to Mom. How he wants H to have no contact ever or he (my son) will cut him out of his life forever!<P>More.... called baby a (her last name) not ever a (our last name). She is the scum of the earth and a disgrace to her children and how dad should never ever want to be near someone like that!! He was heartfelt....ya know...he surprised me.<P>H said it was my insisting on him getting an attorney that made him think about paternity! What a miscommunication! No Plans to want to even find out!! Waiting for may and praying with gratitude.<P> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

gemini, i hope things keep going well for you. and that your husband will be committed to you and your son. take care.<P>happy_girl

Gem:<P>Don't keep us in suspense...<P>I love miracles and answered prayers. <P>So, your husband was in the room when your son expressed himself? Did he see the full force of your son's disappointment and pain? What was your husband's reaction?<P>Praying for you and your family.<P>Catnip =^^=

Dear Gemini,<P>I was just about to close up when I saw your wonderful news! Congratulations!<P>Isn't it amazing how we can talk to each other and not understand a thing the other is saying?<P>I am so glad that there has been this dramatic turnaround with your H. Let us have all the details tomorrow.<P>Meanwhile, enjoy the blessings that God has given you!<P>- Heavenly

Well everyone I went to the church 1/2 hr. before our session. I prayed to God to heal us together as a family but if was not His will, please answer me today at the session.<P>We all were together in the room w/priest and it was akward until my H said ,Michael I want to hear anything you have to say. I love you and wont hold anything against you. I love you. I love Mom. I've hurt you both and I want to erase that short time in my life. Michael I want you to know I have no feelings what so ever for J(ow).Please talk freely.<P>Michael exploded with what I posted earlier. He amazed me what came out of his mouth.<P>Bottom line is he said sure the baby is innocent but it is hers,not yours. It will never be yours. I'm yours. It was a mistake to you Dad. You asked her for abortion and she said no Dad, so let her have it and raise it w/her H or alone .THAT was HER choice. I want OUR family. I want us to have holidays. It's MY grandma and grandpa. The baby belongs to her by herself dad. Not you. If you ever go see it one time I will cut you from my life forever.<P>I then ,with tears in my eyes said,"I'm prepared to leave you too if you choose to see it. It would be too much to take"<P>To my surprise h said...I was only going after a paternity test because mom keeps saying you better get an attorney and do things right.<P>I said it was because I thought it was what he wanted! He said no. I hope she leaves me alone and I'll do nothing. If she sues me for paternity I will have a test and pay and that is it.<P>Big change of mind since this happened.<BR>He must have actually come out of denial of our feelings.<P>Without saying he would visit he would hint it wouldn't interfere in my life.<P>Now he knows and has changed his mind.<P>We will continue a few family sessions and then just H and me. Of course alone sessions too.<P>Also my son said..Mom no more wine! You go crazy on Dad when you drink too much.<BR>He's right. I said I would stop.<BR>Priest said he understood. H said he deserved everything I have said.He too said if he had to hear it every day it would drive him away.<P>I'm doing a day at a time program where I control my mouth for 24 hrs at a time.<P>Priest told family it was unrealistic to think I will never mention it again. But I am to try to keep peaceful. I will TRY.<P>I also said I will have wine or beer sometimes...just not too much as I become so depressed. They agreed.<P>Son and I hugged outside of our cars. We both felt better. Priest kept H for another 45 min. after we left.<P>FR. also told Michael it will take 14-21 days for zoloft to kick in.(as a psychiatrist he talked to him about his depression) Asked son if he felt like harming himself and son said YES!!!! OMG!!! Maybe That woke my H up. Seeing Michael in so much pain. He thought I was the only one in pain!!!<P>It is true God does miracles....He answered our prayers in our lowest moments..... I am forever greatful to God......<P>You know I believe it's how I found all of you in my darkest hous too. A step at a time.<P>I hope to repair this family. I pray things will go smoother for the most part. We are all finally honest.<P>Such joy I feel this morning.<BR> Debi<P> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Gem, Oh this is such wonderful news I am so relieved that you can finally start moving forward. I know all to well what your son is saying about the wine. I dont drink anymore but did dip into it a few times its something I have to just leave alone. Have a happy sunny day. with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>`Look ahead or you will find yourself behind.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Congratulations Gem, that's great news. We will continue to keep you and your family in our prayers, especially as May gets closer.<BR>Tigger<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Thanks Tigger!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Can't wait to hear more. I hope that you have a great evening. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Read on Babstr.....<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Just wanted to say Congrats Gem! <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Appreciate it aloneandsad....<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>gemini, i hope things keep going well for you. and that your husband will be committed to you and your son. take care.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Me too HappyGirl.....<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I love miracles and answered prayers<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> It is truly a miracle Catnip!!!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>Isn't it amazing how we can talk to each other and not understand a thing the other is saying?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> Yes, it is Heavenly.......<BR>------------------<P><BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I dont drink anymore but did dip into it a few times its something I have to just leave alone. Have a happy sunny day. with love flowerseed<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> I still like a beer or wine here and there,I just started to become depressed recently when I had too much to drink. Trying to drown the pain I guess. I will not let that happen again! PMS or not... Thanks Flowerseed.<BR>------------------<P><BR>------------------<BR>Imagine....<p>[This message has been edited by gemini1 (edited January 16, 2001).]

Gem, I have to laugh every time I think about it. What a toxic mixture pms, wine, and going thru what we are going thru. I still can see the amazed look on my h face. I am suprised he lived thru it. Oh me oh my.<P> with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>`Look ahead or you will find yourself behind.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I still can see the amazed look on my h face. I am suprised he lived thru it.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P> Same here! Remember New Years Eve.? I was a raving, lunatic,crazy woman!!!!!!<P>Then 1 wk later we went to the bar up the street for Christmas cheer w/friends. I was saying a general Merry Christmas to these 2 YOUNG guys who sat next to me and all of a sudden my H said,C'mon we're leaving! The 1 guy offered me a beer.... Well in the parking lot I said......<P>What's your problem? I only said hello, I didn't F**K anyone!!! ha..ha..ha...heh..heh...heh.... OOOOOOHHHH I felt empowered!!!!<P><BR>He got soooo quiet on the way home. Food for thought eh? <P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Gem, And then the look of relief on there faces when they see we really didnt lose our minds. he he ha ha ho ho with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>`Look ahead or you will find yourself behind.