<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Surely somebody ought to be able to point out to him how stupid he is being, thinking that once in a while visits would help the kid in any way.<P>And somebody ought to be able to point out to him that his PRIMARY concern is the marriage. The baby isn't even born yet for heaven's sake! Nor has it been proven that it is his child! <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>cd I am the one who insists on 3rd party and slight visitation. He wants to go to ow house to get C. I cannot live w/ that.<BR>I agree and a few others have that priest wasn't concerned w/marriage as MY concern from the beginning was NO CONTACT w/child. Priest spent a lot of time "coaxing" me to believe what my H said that he can't turn back on C. He wants more involvement than I am willing to give.<P>He thinks he can seperate "us" from him and C....no way.<P>If it were up to me I'd never agree to any visits!<P>I was extending an olive branch, as small as it is, to allow maybe 3 visits a year to let C "know" him. Now he's confused again and wants to co-parent. But he wants "us"<P>Ain't gonna happen...<P>Flowerseed it's warm and rainy here. Spring like. Thanks for all your cute e-mails!<P>Fluke my surgery went well and I'm completely happy wth my C's !!!<P>My sister is going may 23. I will be her "caretaker" first 24 hrs. We can't wait.<P>We have a wonderful plastic surgeon here who's done this since 70's....he's good!<BR>Read all you can before you do anything. Find a competent p.s. too....<P>A thought cd...I wouldn't know how to go to a new counselor w/H. He's adament about knowing C and feels sorry for it.<P>I've told him his first alliance should be to me.<P>I'm weary of waiting. I fear the worst. I'll give it some more time.<P>I'm "broken- hearted" today.<P>Debi<P><P>------------------<BR>Imagine....