LyntonG: I quit drinking a long time ago. But the Non-Alchoholic versions are fine and I'd love a steak. <P>Thanks everyone for your concern, I'm going one day at a time, just as alot here are. I know my D is not really appropriate for this board but I know more people here due to my circumstances so I thank you all for your patience.<p>[This message has been edited by Paul Moyers (edited May 27, 2001).]

Dear Paul,<P>Whether or not they have elected me spokesperson, I am going to speak for everyone anyway. You stay with us as long as you need to. You still have a lot to offer those of us who are still trying to heal our marriages and we have a great deal of concern about you.<P>love,<BR>heavenly

Hey Paul,<P> Stay as long as you want. You have friends here, this is where you should be!<P> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

Paul,<P>I second or third that. I think you are a great example of someone who worked the program. You are not responsible for, nor answerable for your wife's sins. You bear no shame, nor guilt her actions. Whatever flaws might have been in your marriage a long time ago before Amanda began her first affair are something that I am sure you tried your best to remedy.<P>I hope you stay here. The depth of your faith (and Jenny's, Gregg's, K's, CD's and so many others) is a help to all of us. It is a huge lift to know that we are being held in prayer by others who know what we are going through. In Bible study on day my minister said: "I am still learning what a huge need I have for prayer. Not just to pray, but to be prayed for." It is hard for me to let others pray for me; it goes against my self-reliance streak. So please stay as long as you feel comfortable and support us in words and prayers.<P>Mrs. Job

Paul, <P>I concur with the others. You are a valuable member of our forum. Although in the minority, there are people here who have spouses that have left their marriage for the OP. Those people, and the newbies that are sure to come, need your wisdom and courage. <P>As time passes and you recover from the pain of your divorce you will become their poster child on how to deal with the aweful hand you were dealt. They will need a person as loving and caring as you to look up to when their chips are down. Although we (BS's who's WS's stayed in the marraige) are all good at giving advice, we cannot give real life personal accounts. So they will and do NEED you.<P>Please stay and be their rock and mentor.<P>Best of luck on your personal recovery,<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Paul, It would've been just as painful to stay, as you are correct, thoughts never leave. May God bless you, and help you in a new life, a new chapter. Now you are free. ember

Paul,<P>I agree with everyone. You belong here, whether you divorced or not. Takingcare was debating whether she should be posting here awhile back, we told her to stick around too. We are family here, regardless of what happens in our marriages, we can come here to be among friends. Keep it up...ONE DAY AT A TIME.<P>Prayers for you,<P>happy_girl