Oh Gemini - STOP trying to make excuses for your H. WHO CARES if she lied about birth control! When you engage in sex, ESPECIALLY with someone who means nothing, someone you have no reason to trust, someone who isn't your wife, those are the chances you take! When are women ever going to hold their H responsible! If it was kept in his pants, there would be no problem!

Bonnie,
I do have to agree with you on this. If my H had kept it in his pants, we wouldn't have to go through with what we are going through. I hold him 100% responsible, even when OW came looking for it as he had the choice not to succomb. He chose poorly.
I also know that in our case OW knew he was married and chose to have consensual unprotected sex also. Therefore, she has consequences too and that is raising the child by herself.
No one wins in this situation, not the OC nor the four children who are living here at our home. They lose a substantial amount of income that belongs to them and OC loses because she deserves more.(Which is why H wanted to adopt her out. He knew from the beginning that he wasn't going to be a part of her life.
No one wins.
BUT....on the other hand,
for a one night stand, I do believe the H's get screwed by the courts on this one and OW gets off pretty easy for an easy lay.( and we, the wives who chose to stand by our H's get royally screwed in more ways than one)
In that respect, I agree with you Gem, where does it get treated fairly?<p>Hugs,
Twiisty<p>[ November 07, 2001: Message edited by: twiisty ]</p>

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>WHO CARES if she lied about birth control<hr></blockquote><p>Everyone in all of the families involved are sickened by her continuing the pregnancy. It's not from her being moral either.....she had abortion in past....It was planned and devious no matter what you say. A married mom of other kids acting that way? What has she done to her kids? What has she taught them on life and marriage? What has my H taught our s on the same thing?<p>Truly a no win situation...most of all for an unwanted by the father baby....