Robert -

I hope you are following advice from an Atty. For answers to your questions - you may want to post in GQII forum where there is more traffic - to draw attn to your post here.

There are smart folks that have walked your trail.

Thanks. What and where would I find GQ11 forum? We have received legal advice. The issue at this point is my wife and I have decided that the adoption is best, but when it comes to the real decison point for my wife, she has waivered on if she can give her child up for adoption even though the adoptive family is Christian and a super couple.

So if once the OC is here and my wife tells me that she cant give up the OC, then I/we must be prepared for the OM to file for custody/partial custody even though I would raise the child as my own (telling the OC the truth when it is appropriate about bio-father) and requiring no CS. I would adopt if I could cleanly but that would certainly require contact by the local judge of the bio father and from what has been said 9 months ago before wife agreed to NC, the OM wants to be in the child's life.

The adoption route actually cuts him out after 30 days from birth per law. So this is a way to ensure that the OC is raised in a 2 parent, "no weekend/wednesday nights away", God fearing home. OM is not a Christian.

Also, if wife goes through with our decison for the adoption, then I need some type of support to support her through the greiving process.

Robert,

Go to the bottom of this forum. See the "Hop To" box, click on the arrow and it'll show you the list of other forums. Click on General Questions II. At the top of that forum click on the New Topic box and start a new thread. Either copy & paste your story from this forum updating it with where you are now or enter a complete new post.

Good luck to ya Robert. You have alot of very serious choices to make and I wish you the best!