If your husband changed his mind about calling her and you want him to, I dont see how husband could get in trouble by this, Harrassment charges usually stem from more than a phone call.

I am not sure what you should do, But I know the not knowing is killing you, I stand by my original thought, if it bothers you and you need closure you need to find a way for you and your husband to approach this.
The only way he would have to pay back any assistance she was on to the state is if it is filed and you go to court.
I have a friend here in texas who filed as soon as the baby was born and it took them an entire year to contact him and go to court and he is paying the state back and about 6 months back support.

This is very confusiing to me, and I dont have a clue what to do. But sit with your husband and make a decision what needs to be done. If need be contact her and ask, But make sure you want to open that can of worms first.
Sometimes I think The other woman doesnt not want her or her child involved with the married man just as much as he doesnt want to be involved and so maybe in those cases leave well enough alone, I am sure she has her reasons as much as you would have yours.
ok well I have given you no advice, but I do hope you find a solution. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ July 10, 2002, 02:58 PM: Message edited by: mom of five ]</small>

mof5,
Do you know if the state took a whole year to open a CS case? Or if there was a CS opened but it took a whole to find him? Just wondering. Child Support services said that they would open a case within three weeks if someone is on assistance.

Dawn

they opened when she filed, she gave them the address where he worked , who he worked for, and when he was at work where they could find him and it took them a whole year to find him and get it done. She handed it all to them on a silver platter including ss# drivers license, license plate, Besides blood I dont know what else she could have done.
This is texas, but you know I know someone at church whos husband went to the store and never returned and after seven years of trying to find this man they called her all excited and said we know where he lives, he lives right here in town, she was shocked and devistated, turns out they gave her very own address as the address for him that she had given seven years before, sad but true.

My guess is they are over worked , undertrained , underpaid. and just dont have the man power or the desire to be profecient.

But just an opinion.

<small>[ July 10, 2002, 04:15 PM: Message edited by: mom of five ]</small>

Hi,
With regards to CS, it varies by state and how backed up the courts are, especially if paternity needs to be established.

In MN, it took me 2 months to get my CS from my H when we separated. The agency told me that sometimes it takes longer, when there is arguments and problems about paternity. We didn't have any of those issue.