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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by catnip:
<strong>CM

Please try to understand that MALC is in crisis right now.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I could not agree with this more. We can be sensitive. I remember reading here that some people have open wounds still so it helps us to understand better the various reactions and strong feelings.

thanks flowerseed, what a compliment coming from you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ November 18, 2002, 08:27 PM: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</small>

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To CM

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Malc,

Actual Facts, I know M05 quite well.

Are you really feeling better about yourself operating in the defensive mode or are you digging yourself into a ditch?

CM </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Just because you say so doesn't mean it's true.
Now you just let your mouth disrespect your brain with that statement. UMMM I gave you more credit than that. I guess people never seems to amaze me. What I find so ironic is, You would think even though, we all agree to disagree that we are mature adult here. I see we have an adolescent aboard.
I'm talking about you CM, I see you are still going through puberty your brain is still operating in the adolescent stage. Please allow your brain to play catch up. I believe without this defect of character you would have so much to offer. Now which meaning below fits you, so we all can help you to get to where you need to go.

somebody in period preceding adulthood: somebody who has reached puberty but is not yet an adult


adjective

1. experiencing adolescence: going through the period of adolescence adolescent youths


2. happening during adolescence: typically occurring during the period of adolescence


3. immature: typical of somebody who is immature


Now CM which of the meanings above better fits your profile so we can better help you? I'll be patient with you I do understand.
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Thank you BTHDT Yes I agree with you everyone has something to contribute.

Catnip thanks for looking out. No matter what I'm feeling, I will defend who I am, and what I believe at all cost, I'am a fighter believe that.

<small>[ November 19, 2002, 03:31 AM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>

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2 things.

Howdy high ho to catnip, BTDT, and anyone else who 'knows' me.

2. LOVED the open wound bit!!

If ANY of us saw another human with a big 'ol gapping wound, bloody, torn etc., we would not expect them to act normally. That wound is what has happened to betrayed spouses spiritually and emotionally: HUGE wounds.

We're all at different stages of healing, and should NOT expect rationality out of those most in pain. They come here to be heard and start healing... Unfortunately(?) some of us are coming from opposite sides of the fence (betrayed-wanderer, male-female, etc), and coming to healing through different methods.

Why not help those you can, accept what healings you can from others, stay out of what you cannot help nor change? Different things help different people.

J, in recovery 4y and glad!

<small>[ November 19, 2002, 09:34 AM: Message edited by: Jenny ]</small>

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by MALC:
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Just because you say so doesn't mean it's true.
Now you just let your mouth disrespect your brain with that statement. UMMM I gave you more credit than that. I guess people never seems to amaze me. What I find so ironic is, You would think even though, we all agree to disagree that we are mature adult here. I see we have an adolescent aboard.
I'm talking about you CM, I see you are still going through puberty your brain is still operating in the adolescent stage. Please allow your brain to play catch up. I believe without this defect of character you would have so much to offer. Now which meaning below fits you, so we all can help you to get to where you need to go.

somebody in period preceding adulthood: somebody who has reached puberty but is not yet an adult


adjective

1. experiencing adolescence: going through the period of adolescence adolescent youths


2. happening during adolescence: typically occurring during the period of adolescence


3. immature: typical of somebody who is immature


Now CM which of the meanings above better fits your profile so we can better help you? I'll be patient with you I do understand.
No matter what I'm feeling, I will defend who I am, and what I believe at all cost, I'am a fighter believe that.</strong>[/QUOTE]

MALC! This is NOT OK! These comments are PERSONAL and COMBATIVE and non-productive and it seems to me you are deliberately accelerating this into a needless war. Measure and fit the comment to the intent and not go off like this.

Maybe you are a "fighter" like most of us here, but please choose your battles wisely. Just because someone gave you a shot doesn't mean you have to respond with a cannon. A Derringer is better and a lot more fair.

I know, MALC, that you are in crisis and are in an incredible amount of pain but please, no more beating up OW's in effigy. What else can we/I do to help you through this. Let's think of something that might provide you with better results.

Catnip =^^=

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by MALC:
<strong>To CM

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Malc,

Actual Facts, I know M05 quite well.

Are you really feeling better about yourself operating in the defensive mode or are you digging yourself into a ditch?

CM </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Just because you say so doesn't mean it's true.
Now you just let your mouth disrespect your brain with that statement. UMMM I gave you more credit than that. I guess people never seems to amaze me. What I find so ironic is, You would think even though, we all agree to disagree that we are mature adult here. I see we have an adolescent aboard.
I'm talking about you CM, I see you are still going through puberty your brain is still operating in the adolescent stage. Please allow your brain to play catch up. I believe without this defect of character you would have so much to offer. Now which meaning below fits you, so we all can help you to get to where you need to go.

somebody in period preceding adulthood: somebody who has reached puberty but is not yet an adult


adjective

1. experiencing adolescence: going through the period of adolescence adolescent youths


2. happening during adolescence: typically occurring during the period of adolescence


3. immature: typical of somebody who is immature


Now CM which of the meanings above better fits your profile so we can better help you? I'll be patient with you I do understand.
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Thank you BTHDT Yes I agree with you everyone has something to contribute.

Catnip thanks for looking out. No matter what I'm feeling, I will defend who I am, and what I believe at all cost, I'am a fighter believe that.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hmmmm.....Malc?
First, I don't see how asking if you feel you are making progress toward recovering by thrashing about and digging yourself into a ditch is a shot.Actually, you asked me a direct question for which you received my answer. If you don't want the answer, don't ask the question.

My next thought is simply to ask what role do you think you had in your spouse having an affair? I am thinking you treated him just the same way you treat those here who do not agree with you. Like little kids who need to be spanked and corrected. Thanks, but I'll pass Malc!

As you can figure out if you are actually quasi-intelligent somewhere in your thick headed thinking process, that I fit none of your ridiculous profiles. Well, honestly, I didn't read your entire list as I had to chuckle and stop wasting my brain cells.

CM

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CM! You are getting personal. Let it go.

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I'm sure no explanation is necessary!! I am closing this thread. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Can't we just get back to the matters at hand, which would be Marriage Building?

Personal assaults by anyone will not be tolerated! Many of you need to read this again...

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