unhappy wife,
You may be to some degree right, but I still believe if all four people can act mature and love a child they can do what is best for that child.
I still am happy with the fact that I did my very best and we worked well taking care of our daughter, I am sorry his lies caught up to him and he is not able to be honest with his family, must be very hard on him. I spoke with him today for a hour and we discussed many things, seems he is being pressured at home about many things and having a hard time. AS pops said I still think it can be done and would want any new marriage builders to know, that if all four parties are able to treat each other with respect and do what is best for the child, it will be a good thing.
My husband and I know we did what was best, if they are not able to handle it, perhaps she is better off with out them in her life. WE were respectful and tried to be very accomadating, they know that om agrees but says his wife will never change and he is sick of hearing her gripe all the time. we have made no decisions about this and om and I decided we would think on it and we would get to gether at the end of the month and discuss what should be done,
but I am leaning towards him signing his rights away, he doesnt want to do that , wants me to take him on his word, but no way will my husband go for that. so he will have to give up rights.
I must do what is best for my daughter. and their disfunction and fighting all the time, is disrupting to our home life and my marriage. They are not fighting with us , just each other, and then it flows to our home,
It really isnt all bad, My daughter has me and my husband who love her more than anything, what a lucky girl she is. She also has a few siblings who think she is great till she gets into their cd's <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> so like many of you dealing with the ow who acts crazy, I have decided maybe no contact is best because his wife is not healthy or safe around my daughter any longer , as a mother I feel the need to end that contact.
This will no doubt bring about alot of peace in our lives.
The fighting in there house will not stop , but if his wife has no access to us, then it will not over flow to our house or to my child.
I dont think om's daughter will agree to it, she is not going to just let her sis walk away, so she will be told she can be in her life if she wishes, she is very kind and always respectful and I dont think we have the right to take that away.
of course om changes his mind every other day, so who the heck knows what he will want next week.
In the mean time, I have a new house I am unpacking, hard to do when THE doc says no more than 5 lbs, and do they really expect you not to drive for 4 weeks, That will kill me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
pops thank you for being so supportive, I do appreciate it. Grace is a lucky girl to have you, I know om will not walk away if I say NO dont, but I am not stopping him, and I am encouraging him to do so now, I feel guilty for that. I guess I want them out of our lives more than I realised. Om and I both agree this was not what we expected and too many people trying to make decisions.
Husband and I will be fine, and are doing very well. He likes his new job and I believe it will lead to good things.He is happier and being very supportive of my decisions.
kids are doing great and as you know, with a house full you dont have so much time to focus on this stuff.
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