Catnip,

How wonderful to see one of you famous posts! I love the way that you can explain exactly what I wanted to express! It is a "symbol" of a change where one era has been left behind! Thank you for this post! And it is wonderful to see you posting, although sporatically, again!

Love,

Tigger

Hello everybody,

First we are all here for some reason either we had the A or our spouse did. We all have a D -day it's what we make of it or what it has done to us, there's no right or wrong answer as we know what's imporant to me may not even affect you or vice/versa. The same as how we all absorb and put meaning on it. I used to say I wish I was one who lost someone on 9-11 after all they only had that one day of tragdy, and I have so many. But I am 1 year and 3 months into finding out about that DAY!!! No I don't mark it on the calender but it's ingraved on my mempty calender which I think we all have. But as I'm seeing and learning as I grow as a new person, that alwful day will never be that way again, maybe sad but never as that way as the day I found out. I actully see it now as a bittersweet Day because it started out horrible plus it was a holiday but I grown and my life has changed since that day, but it's ok I can live with that and I think as time goes by the pain will ease but if that day didn't happened I couldn't be who I am now.They say things happen for a reason and I'm truly understanding it a little better everyday.And one day I hope to be happy about that D-Day . I just needed to express my feelings I hope someone can relate to it too.
Jill

Hello everybody,

First we are all here for some reason either we had the A or our spouse did. We all have a D -day it's what we make of it or what it has done to us, there's no right or wrong answer as we know what's imporant to me may not even affect you or vice/versa. The same as how we all absorb and put meaning on it. I used to say I wish I was one who lost someone on 9-11 after all they only had that one day of tragdy, and I have so many. But I am 1 year and 3 months into finding out about that DAY!!! No I don't mark it on the calender but it's ingraved on my memory calender which I think we all have. But as I'm seeing and learning as I grow as a new person, that alwful day will never be that way again, maybe sad but never as that way as the day I found out. I actully see it now as a bittersweet Day because it started out horrible plus it was a holiday but I grown and my life has changed since that day, but it's ok I can live with that and I think as time goes by the pain will ease but if that day didn't happened I couldn't be who I am now.They say things happen for a reason and I'm truly understanding it a little better everyday.And one day I hope to be happy about that D-Day . I just needed to express my feelings I hope someone can relate to it too.
Jill

I will never forget my D-day. I would like to share it with you.

I found papers totally by mistake. I thought I was married to a bigimist(sp?). These papers involved OW and two OC's with the same last name as mine and H's. Come to find out later that OW changed her name to same leagally, on her own. In this country, a person can change their name legally.

I still remember where I was working, ect., as if it were yesterday. That is if I choose to dwell there. I hardly do anymore. This post certainly made me think of it today. It's been so long since I thought about it. I would not want to relive the pain.

I have never thought of d-day on the day itself. Maybe 2 mo. later, I think, d-day went by and I didn't even notice.

This is only my story and answer.

ember