<small>[ December 17, 2003, 01:52 PM: Message edited by: wife03 ]</small>

Originally posted by wife03:

I've been married for 5 months, there is a woman stating that my husband got her pregnant and shes due in 2 months.

If you know who she is and where she is, go take a look at her.... someone who is 7 months pregnant should be fairly easy to identify.

I dont know this woman I just happened to read an email she wrote him. I confronted my H on it, and he says its a complete lie.

This makes me suspicious of your husband. If he recieved a crazy email claiming he is a father .... why didn't he come to you with a copy in his hand and say, "Look at this! This is just completely nutz!"...

Why didn't he tell you about this scary woman claiming to carry his child?

He's never been with this woman. He doesn't know why shes emailing him.

Then why did he not bring it up to you immediately? This smells funny.

I want to trust him, and to a point I do.

You want to believe your husband has been faithful. This is natural. But, I ask you this .... are you possibly dealing with a mentally ill woman here? This is just about the only reason I can think of that she would make such a claim if they had "never been together" .... she might be mentally unbalanced.

I just don't understand how a woman could accuse someone of something so serious. She is a younger woman(only 20), that has always wanted my H, and he says she tried to be with him.

When did your H tell you this? Was it after your discovery of the email?

but we've been together for 3 years and it has been wonderful. He told her he would never do anything to hurt me. I don't know if I should take her accusations as the truth, honestly I think shes just trying to hurt us.

Why would a sane person try to hurt you?

She says that shes jealous of what we have. I want to make this marriage work. He says if she insists on blood work, he'll do it, but she would be stupid to ask. He thinks shes trying to get back at him for not wanting her?

Only a seriously unbalanced person would try this.

I don't know what to believe. and I feel bad for believing her, I dont want to wrongly accuse my H. these next 2 months are going to be tough.

I think you have this before you:

1. She is crazy and delusional.

or

2. Your husband is trying to pull a fast one.

Which one do you think is more likely?

If you actually SEE with your own eyes that she is 7 months pregnant .... then that makes it more difficult for your H's story to stand up.

Why did he say he hid her threatening email from you?

Pep

<small>[ December 16, 2003, 10:40 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

I agree with Pepper. I would find out who she is and where she lives but I would do more than just take a look at her. I would talk to her and ask her some very pointed questions and go home to your husband with that information and try to discern what is true and what is not.

Let us know. You'll know in your heart what the truth is when you hear it.

I agree with the other 2 posters as well.

AND something else to consider which I find OBVIOUS;

If she tried to come on to him....and he denied her.....WHY DOES SHE HAVE HIS EMAIL ADDRESS???
That sounds a little like "encouragement" (from him to her) to me.

How about this POV; ask yourself, WHY would a perfectly SANE woman, such as yourself, believe such a story from a man?

Maybe I'm being too harsh here.

Here is an easier way to think it over...your H, as a married man should be above reproach, in other words any instances or passes made by other woman should have been reported to you immediately to avoid exactly these situations.

A consequence for not preparing you would be your suspicion and a loss of trust.

You can at least rest assured that all will and should be settled in 2 months when your H gets sued for child support and a DNA test is done.

Many people have been lied to (some on numerous occasions) around here and still go on to have restored marriages but not without the truth being confronted.

You have a choice to believe or not. If you do not want to make waves you can believe it wholeheartedly and just wait and see how far this OW will take it.

Or you can not believe and try to get to the bottom of this.

You love your H and it's ok if you believe him. You may be right, give it your whole heart. You may be wrong but that's ok too. Both are risky choices.

I hope it works out in your favor. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ December 17, 2003, 01:51 PM: Message edited by: wife03 ]</small>

Wife03,

Are you ok? Did something happen to make you want to erase both your posts? Whatever it is, I hope you are ok.

What's going on?