Wow! I really didn't expect so many replies to this post! I think that I'm just really confused right now. I agree, "there is no right answer!" Thank you all for your responses. Good luck to you.

<<***edited**Justuss*****>>


edited?
you edited "*****yep!!****"?

for ****'s sake people.


this has got to be the most ******* board that i've ever come accross. it's filled with nothing but ***********


i actually thought about coming back and giving the board a second chance in case i jumped to conclusions too soon the first time...boy was i wrong.


please remove my registration

****bye****

<small>[ January 23, 2004, 07:02 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Take heart Human, as you are not alone.
In fact, you make sense. And don't let others drive you off.

It's sad that many of these WS have NO Problem with "contact" when it suits Their needs (sex, fun, excitement).. but then are so quick to walk away when a problem (in their eyes) comes into the picture. It takes Alot More than just $money$ to raise a child.

No one says they have to be with the OP. But a child is for life. If you feel you made a mistake, great, deal with it. But do not condem an innocent for your actions. Don't just have your fun and then expect to walk away. That child needs you as much as the child you wanted.

And no, it not just "rose colored glasses". Will it be hard? Of course. The situation the WS created makes it that way. However, you seem willing to do the Hard Work it takes to save and heal your marriage. Then you can do the Hard work it takes to raise a child born out of infidelity. Children not only deserve to know who they are and where they came from, they need it.

The WS had no problem getting with the OP, so take the necessary steps to make it right. Easy or not.

Justuss..

We are being infiltrated by Trolls. Could we lock this baby up? This post is indicative of a trouble maker beating the C drum and we have ALL heard it and regurgitated it before a bazillion times and we are so bored with it and none of us care about this topic or what she thinks. This kind of thing has NOTHING to do with Marriage Builders. These kind of people should take this issue up with their XMM or clergyman or go on the "other board". Discussing this wityh a Betrayed is insane since we had nothing to do with any of this from the beginning.

Thanks

Cat =^^=