btdt, I agree with what you stated. Especially about the past being all lies.

I found out in 1996 when H's A had been over for 4 yrs. An 11 year A+4 years of darkness=15 years of my life. It hurts.

After 8 years into recovery, I am so thankful that I am still married to this amazing man. I'm glad I stayed, but this, thought, took many years to form. I am proud to say that H and I are M 31 years.

I wish anyone, that knew, would have let me know.

ember