I know OW got pg. on purpose. WS and I were trying for our own child when she came along. I do know they used protection at first. Then he made the mistake of telling her how much he wanted a child and about the one we'd lost. This w**** jumped on the chance. They were seperated for 6 months and she was on the pill and WS came back and then she's not. Obviously she wasn't faithful to him. She did this not once but twice. I certainly have my doubts about whose kid it is. But right now WS believes it. Still heavy in the fog!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Chris -CA123:
<strong> I was being sarcastic.
Just because you do not use birth control does not mean you are planning on getting pregnant.

There is no such thing as an "accident".
True. But there is such a thing as irresponsibility.
Some pregnancies are planned, some are "schemed" by the ow and some happen because both parties were just to irresponsible (stupid) to care/worry about birth control. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well put Chris....well put.

Schemed was what happened in my husbands and my case with his A with ow.... irresponsibile of him at the same time not to be protected.

Ow wrote how she would give him the other children I never gave him. On a side note: If H hadn't complained of having only one son, ow may not have had the idea if she gave him more children he'd leave me for "them".

Didn't happen and here we are...
God has a plan for us all I guess. No matter what would have happened, God gets all the glory.

love
Debi

Why do these woman think that they can keep these men out H's if they have these children? Is it a money thing? I know raising a child cost money, but if you didn't have it inthe first place why get preg? Most MM from what I have read don't leave their WS. So ok lets see if I can't have him, I can have a piece of him, and a good pc of money. Also get to be in their lives forever (in some cases w/ c) Most of the OW your H is damned if he sees the OC and damned if he don't

I found out OC is a boy. It made me cry. This s*** has 2 kids of her own she can't take care of. Put her husband in jail for nonsupport. Does WS think she won't do something like that to him? That should be proof right there that all she wants is the money. Said she didn't want the support and then when he was late she throws him in jail. She's a piece of work alright. Wish WS would see through the fog before she gives birth and at least goes for a DNA test.

God help them but yes I believe MANY women (married, single or OW) get pregnant on purpose to keep the "man" around. I know that my OW did plan her pregnancy and it back fired on her. She had a better chance of keeping the A going if she hadn't got pregnant. Reality is a big SMACK upside the head for the MM. If both MM and OW planned it together then they were foolish and kidding themselves if you think you can start a new pretend family while still in the midst of another one. It must be nice to have a sweet baby that so many women would kill for and the bonus of a paycheck from the MM for support.

Hi Cyn,

To answer your question, "YES", my ex-H's OW(s) both got pregnant intentionally, and admit to it.

OW #1 got pregnant to further her Wealthfare. She has 4 other children, all diff dad's, and each one is 4.5 years apart. You see when on Wealthfare in my State, they cut your funds down when the child is of school-age (5 years old). So every 4.5 years she would find a new victim, I mean meal ticket, oh, I mean donor.

OW #2 got pregnant to hurt/compete with OW #1. She was the original first OW, and my then-H cheated on her with OW #2 (ONS).

Pretty confusing, I know. But they both got pregnant intentionally knowing he was married.

Aren't you glad I'm out of that mess? I know I am.

Lv,
Jo

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All I can say is that I think most of them get Pregnant on purpose. OW in my case got pregnant when H was starting to leave affair and when he has asked her/accused her of getting pregnant on purpose she doesn't dispute and doesn't admit to it--just doesn't respond--I see that as guilty.

Albany

It hurts like hell. I often wonder if WS ever thinks about the child "we" lost. They go on their merry way and I cry myself to sleep every night wishing I was having WS's child. She has my life and threw it in my face every chance she had. WS promised we'd still have a child (it may be too late already) together and then moved 90 miles away with his w****. How sick to use an innocent baby to keep someone. OW gave up custody of her two oldest kids because they "were too much to handle." Yeah, she's a good mom alright. Drank, got high, and smoked crack the first three months of pregnancy. Yeah she'll sure be a good mom alright.

Sorry Cyn.

It's very raw for you right now. I do understand. I was a mess for a very VERY long time.

I'm a successful engineer, my ex-H was a professional musician. The women were bar groupies. I participated in both OCs (boys) lives for approx 3+ years, until my spinless then-H started messing around with OW #1 [ONS].

OW #2 was a crack addict, and the OC (my step-son) was born addicted. My ex-H is very, ummm, how can I say this and still be respectful, naive? .... he made a real mess of our marriage. We were married 16 years, together 21. I tried very hard, but there was too much to forgive, too much on-going ugliness and continuing lies and deception on his part.

He betrayed and robbed me in every way possible a spouse could another. Just a very dishonorable man.

I'm very sorry for your pain. Very ... I do know what you're feeling. Please take care.

Jo

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