KrisM Don't know if I can help with this or not but I will try.

First of all I would not do anything until the DNA is confirmed. If the result is negative you would just have more to explain if you don't. If the DNA is confirmed I would be honest with the kids just keep it to their level. My oldest was 5 when this took place. He was told that I was adopting this child and never questioned it further. I have been fortunate in the regard of not having to do the weekend visits and such. I do know that your kids will take their cue from you and how you respond. If you are upset around this child, they will be to. You need to be able to handle it first and then approach the issue with your kids. One thing about kids is their acceptance of things is amazing. As long as they feel their world is still secure and their home is intact, they adjust rather well from what I have seen. However if they feel threatened in anyway, they will reject the situation. So it all depends on how you handle it yourself. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I think in my case I had it shoved in my face all at once and it was in some ways more managable. I can't imagine having to wait for the outcome and wonder if?????????????????? Please know that you are in my prayers.