Entwife:

I read what you posted. I might argue with the description of sanctimonious, but I didn't find it offensive. And I am not a moderator here, so I can't boot people (Steve wouldn't let me have Tempest's job, because he'd lose half his site's participants... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

I've already covered the Lynn thing...

Let's let this thread die. Or at least rest until Lynn can come and reply <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Ok...ok... i'll be nice...
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
ent.

Originally posted by K:
Pep:

I didn't type "sprout". Get those eyes checked!

No kidding .... blurry~~~~~~~~~~~~

If they're MB-totin', sprouting OW's, he's probably great with it.

So am I. (assuming you mean X-OW not current OW) My bestest good friend on MB is XOW/XWW ... you know who I mean. I love her and trust her with my home address and my CELL phone #!!!!!

(sprouting ~LOL~)

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> I am wearing sunglasses because I am obvuiously going blind.

okay can someone clarify for us newbie's ho are the OW's on this board-- know most WW's and have uttermost respect for them.

I don't know much about Pep, or K and I assumed at one point K was a women but now I see it is mentioned as he.

Just want a little background info.

Tyring to stay out of this as a newbie since I'm working on M but would love to add my two cents about "MOST" OW's.

Also I don't remember who but some said they feel most OW's are sorry and wouldn't do it again--I don't agree with that--I have seen several examples on this site of repeat OW offenders

HA2004, yes it was towards you but that is only because you guys were much quicker than I, when I began posting it was 1 page & then when I was done it was already 3 pages.

I am not offended. I appreciated your personal post to me...just didn't have anything to reply w/ @ the moment. but...if you've been lurking for awhile than I would think that you would know that I have done most of those things & have tried to be understanding to OW. So....we're (H & I) done for now.

Reading that you have also taken NC steps to stand by your boundaries is encouraging. Maybe it will happen before it is too late.

I'll respond on that one in awhile--time to wash out my hair dye. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

HappyAgain2004,

"Truce?"


TRUCE!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />


K,

I think Pep's vision problems may be a result of that stuck thong mentioned in her new signature line. It appears it is now constricting her eyesight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

remember the good ol' days when 'thongs' were something you wore on your feet?

& you had to get used to it between your toes not your cheeks?LOL LOL LOL HAHAHAHAHAH <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

LynnG, dont blame you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I have thanked you in the past and I will do it again. You NEVER told me to CHEAT the ow or oc out of anything, you NEVER told me I should do NC. You have supported us "nebies" like baby chicks! You did tell me to get off of my feeling sorry for me butt and do something! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I could either crawl back in my hole and do nothing or get off my butt and think about and do something about what I needed to do, what I was thinking about doing and find out what I wanted in my M. I have learned I cant change anyone but MYSELF and to do what I felt God and me wanted to do. Even though you might not have aggreed w/ me on what I was doing you NEVER told me not to do what I felt I needed to do. None of the "oldies" here have. Ya'll have guided us w/ your wisdom of what could and might and more that likely happen but always stood by us. Held us when we where feeling down and when we didn't seem like we where getting off our butts, well you told us to! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> You have done and continue to do what is best for you and yours and I agree with anyone when they do what is best for their family! Ya'll have watched over us like a hen w/ chicks and sent anyone packing trying to hurt the ones who's life was just sucked out of them. You have made some of us stronger and w/o your guidence we may still be in our holes. So I will say again I don't blame you cause I know you are there, and it is so true that some of us are so much stronger & wiser than the rest ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

This explains why you might be here on MB ... You're doing marriage research ... so the next time you say "I do" you come equiped with a "how-to" manual.

Yes?

Pep
YES you got it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
In fact maybe I'll just send the next one over here first for a few lesson????

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> My bestest good friend on MB is XOW/XWW ... you know who I mean. I love her and trust her with my home address and my CELL phone #!!!!!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

Suz <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

(an XOW/XWW with Pep's cell phone, home address, and pictures but, not of the thong. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ August 12, 2004, 08:59 PM: Message edited by: Susan ]</small>

(an XOW/XWW with Pep's cell phone, home address, and pictures but, not of the thong. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Suzzzzzzz

I love you too much to send you that pix.

But, I just figgured out what to get you for Xmas! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Pep

need to move on -

First. You are the one who puts words in MY mouth. I have ALWAYS TOLD THESE WOMEN TO DO THINGS LEGALLY. I have NEVER TOLD ANYONE TO DO A THING THAT IS ILLEGAL.

As for your plaintive wail about who is more important the BC or the OC. To many people try to force the "good for the child" mantra around, forgetting that there are already children in the mix. Those children need to be protected and be allowed to live their lives. As far as I'm concerned, TO ME, my childrens needs come first. PERIOD.

You have a "feeling" that what I did was illegal? Get a grip. You obviously have a problem with the fact that the law looks out for ALL in this situation. As for the legal trouble the ow in our lives found herself in, she CHOSE to disobey a court order. She did that to herself. Her problem. Her fault. I could care less if somebody looks into her record and sees a OFP on it. Not my problem is it?

Of course we followed the court order. It was legal, biding document. We have NEVER been late with the cs. Never. Not once. That also included the stated agreement that we wanted no contact. And yes, we have never had a minute of time with oc. Should oc come around, he will be told the truth. No sense in sugar coating it. What would be the point? I'm sure he is well aware of how he got here at this point.

Your holier than thou act wore thin with me a long time ago. Even your "what will you tell the oc..." is evidence that you are only thinking of the oc. Which, is FINE. But don't forget that that same sense of protection is what the BW do for their kids. And I will always tell the BW to do what is best for THEIR children and they do not ever have to take into consideration the ow/oc in that decision. That is not her problem.

As for ow coming on here with their passive agressive swipes, you better believe I will jump.

Personally I find your banter amusing.

And...of course you and I will never agree. You say that I don't know about your life, but you in turn can speak of mine? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> GMAB.

You come on here and it drive you nuts that there is a whole other side to the story. That people have completely different opinons. That people are not looking at the oc the same way you do. But, this is a sight for MARRIAGE BUILDING. It is not a support site for the ow and her choices in life.

So if you don't like one of the choices a couple has, maybe this isn't the place for you?

As for you and I posting. You and I have rarely seen eye to eye. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .
I think we did once actually.

But one thing needs to be said. When you look into the eyes of your child, all innocent and blue (??), and you wonder "how on earth can he/she/they do this to this child" Know that on the others side of the story is a man looking into the eyes of his child with his wife, all innocent and blue (??) wondering "how on earth could I have done this to this child"

There are two sides to this. You are forgetting that there is a family in place and people have been hurt. Those people have choices too. Just as you chose to have sex with a married man, to heck with his wife and children, we CHOOSE to not have contact. We all have our choices in life. I do not like yours and you don't like mine.

As for this board and the war? Personally, I do not see it as a board war. I do not see the harm in all sides tossed up on the table. I DO however, see harm when OW (unmarried too), come here and complain or whine about their lot in life and take side swipes at the BW in their situation. I worry about some of the more sensitive BW.

<small>[ August 13, 2004, 07:50 PM: Message edited by: needtomoveon ]</small>

How about you and I calling a truce? At least for a while <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Seems like we are so polorized on each side of the fence that really, we can babble on and on and nothing seems to come of it does it?

I know I sound harsh to you, and I'm sure you realized that you come across that way to me. I guess words on a screen don't have inflection behind them. K?

Lynn truce...............thanks