me&boys, Ok I can see why you would not want to comunicate w/ this man. Like you said he does have the right to see his child. (Some may differ!)But, what you have to do is figure out a way to do the visits as smooth as possible. Maybe you can take the child to the parents and do the drop off and p/u there. And you wouldn't have to put yourself in the situation of being around him. But of course he has his own story and there is no way for you to prove what he did. You live and learn. If you had known it was his then you would have done things different. Wouldn't we ALL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> But your child is two and he (right?) is old enough to tell you if something is not right, and being the mom, you will see it long before they will tell!

OB1 You prove that all has to be put aside for the child/children. You have to work at making C work. All sides do! Not just one! To me it would be like any other "blended" family situation. But if we can put aside the anger and pain of it all and indeed do what is best for all childern involved then I see where it can and does work. You may have so called "control" but you still had to grit your teeth and do what was best for Jonah. And that is the give and take that BOTH sides has to do.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

I know who you are now... WOW, M&TB.... does the W know the circumstances?

And then that leads me to ask-if W does know, did she think you were lying (crying wolf) cause he was married? I bet they did..

I am sorry for any generalizations I made that did not apply to you!!! Its bound to happen on these boards w/all the lack of specifics- thanks for filling us in.

I admire your courage. I must say wow to the wife who is standing behind her H who did this to another woman. She must be an extremely decent person to want C w/your child under the circumstances, and maybe that going to be a saving grace in the long run????

giovanni,

No, she doesn't know. That was a choice I made, and stand by. However, I know for a fact that I am not alone in my experience with this man, and I have a nagging feeling his W has some idea of his behavior due to something that was once said...

PS you know who I am now??? Yikes!
No, just kidding, I know what you mean..lol.

I know who you are...

I see dead people.....

(enter eerie music)...

And I bet you know who I am too... but who the heck cares anyway, I'm not a stalker.

ha ha!!

Hey lady- YOU are very strong, very strong to be able to withstand MM's W to look at you as if you were the OW.. etc..

I said it before that as a mother I felt for your situaion-- and since I know your story I REALLY feel for you!!

Hi MNTheBoyz,

I admire you for protecting the wife of that monster. In my similar situation I made the decision not to tell for fear it might cause the woman a beating. I think the knowledge of the truth would be very painful to the wife. I think I would be twice as hurt if I knew my husband was not just seduced by OW but actually raped a woman against her will. I wonder if there is any hope for a rapist. I can understand why you would not want your child around MM.