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My Dad through emotional abuse and inappropriate french kissing and my Granddad though sexual abuse. My dad called my Mom names. <small>[ August 27, 2004, 02:26 PM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>
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How would you recognize a healthy man-woman relationship if you've never seen one? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
Apparently, you have only experienced "hurtful loving". Is this true?
How much therapy time have you done?
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Hi,
Yes, It's true that I have had hurtful empty love, no real love. I have had very little therapy because I have little money. I am getting counseling now from The Crisis Center for Abuse but it is limited to eight sessions. She said she may be able to extend it if she sees the need or if she has time because the limit was placed because the service is in such high demand. The latest when I talked to husband. I asked if he was haveing any drama. He asked what I meant. I said with your Baby's Mamas. He said, no Drama, I will handle it and if I can't I will get help. I said your way. He said yes, what other way is there to handle it. I dropped the subject. I did not want to get in an argument. So you see, he sees no us concerning OC/OW situation. It is just him and OW. I am left completely out. If I try and get involved we get in an argument. <small>[ August 27, 2004, 03:04 PM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>
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Hi Pep,
Gotta go for the day. I appreciate your concern. I do not know your story but I like the way you talk and you are very pro-marriage.
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If I try and get involved we get in an argument.
Remember to state how his actions effect you .... That is never LBing. Be honest and own your emotional well-being.
"When you do this ____ (his behavior), as a result I feel _____(your emotional response)."
AND VERY IMPORTANT !!!!!
You do this very same exact thing when he does SOMETHING RIGHT!!!!
Not just when he's hurt you, but also when he's pleased you in some way.
You have a voice. Use it well.
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