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Update

Hi Kimmy,

I just read your update. I just cannot beleive your darling husband is doing this to you. I am not gonna give you any advise. You will know what you need to do. ((((((((((Kimmy)))))))))))))))

Kimmy,

So sorry--hate fence sittign trying to live for me the last few days since my H is DONE and going to get a D--not that he couldn't have already. You can read my update.

I hope that Nio will come out of the fog once and for all--what a turd he needs several 2 x 4's. But I can say the same for mine. Be strong fight for what you want and if you ever need to yak just give me your phone #--I have all the LD I want to use for 20 a month--let me know it is great to talk via phone and hear a voice rather then this sometimes.

Stay strong and I say a prayer for Nio as well as my H that god shows them way and helps them to figure it out.

I have decided to just be upbeat and happy even if i'm not happy with the curretn situation because I want H to see who I really am and who I use to before all this crap.

HUGS

Niosgirl,

I don't know what to say, all I can say is that I am praying for you. You might have to plan b your H. There is nothing else you can do, I don't think Plan A is meant to be a life plan.

PRAYING FOR YOU,

JT

Niosgirl--keeping acting as you are--all you can do right now I guess is tough love it and let him know what it is really like without you--otherwise they get the best of both--they need to know what it is like without. I'm trying that myself but--darn it--it is killing me inside to act all cheery around him.

Said a prayer for you and Nio last night too--will keep doing the same. BIG HUGS

Hi Kimmy,

I read your update. I am scared of you. We have different values so I will not try and give you advise. You are a smart person. You do what you feel in your heart. I hurt for you that you are going through this. To tell you the truth, I would rather a man hit me in the head than to cheat on me. That is just the way I feel. Praying for you
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Why are you scared of me?

I just got pissy because of what committed said. I'm sick and tired of people ASSuming that I'm not taking responsibility or rolling over and taking it up the you-know-what from Nio. I've gotten close to ZERO support from my family, and I don't mean pat on the back kind of support, I mean I got called names. I TRUST no one right now but my kids, and even they are iffy (being kids, you know). Kim is standing up for Kim and I'll take anyone on in a war of words to try to get MY point across. Committed assumed I was blaming Nio - and I was, but I was taking responsibility for my yelling.

As for being hit in the head vs. cheating - I dunno, both suck balloons and I wouldn't wish either on just about anyone.

In the immortal words of Bartles and James, "Thank you for your support."

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Hi Kimmy,

I think I understand what committed was trying to say. You should never argue in front of kids. I know that and you know that. I regret times husband and I argued in front of kids. Sometimes arguments get ugly fast and you really don't realize the kids are hearing it, or think. Now when I want to discuss issues with husband, I make sure I don't do it around kids. Sometimes however they start stuff. I understand what she was saying though and don't think she meant it as anything against you. I think she meant to take control of the argument and to take the argument away from the kids. Kimmy I am so sorry you are going through this pain. You and only you know what you need to do and I support you because I know you have a good head on your shoulders and you will do what is best. I will deal with my husband. I am not sleeping with him and will not while he is acting like such a jerk.

And yeah I am scared of you when it comes to Word wars, I would back down quick and run away like a scared puppy so I hope we never get in one.

For the record, the kids were NOT in the room, and our door was closed. That doesn't mean they didn't hear anything, tho. Sunday, they both were outside.

LOL! I'd never bite YOU, Gen.

I'm with you Nios--we normally aren't this way but look what we have become because of them.

Frustrating--I just keep telling myself to live without H and let him see it--I know it will kill him.

He is much more of a jealous person than me--I hate to have to use that against him but I may have to. Have a few cold ones on me Kimmy--I'm gonna have a few this weekend.

Oh Kimmy my dear. My heart goes out to you and so do my prayers. I hope the heck Nio wakes up and soon. While he is gone try to relax and let the meds do their thing. I don't blame you for loosing it, I would have too. Does not make it right but I can understand. Try to take care of yourself.

Love to you.

Hi Luv,

I agree it is difficult to be rational when there is nothing rational about WH behavior. I also have lost it more than once and sometimes you are unaware of the kids till it is all over.

Kimmy,

To tell the truth I cannot accept that my husband would have a relationship with anybody except me. Somehow my mind will not let me accept that. I try an enter that in my mind and I reject it. I refuse to beleive that. I think the word mistress is too nice for OW. I hope husband did not consider himself a couple with OW, and I hope your husband did not either. I cannot process that. I see OW as trash. No more, No less. I am sorry. I am nice to OW on the phone like you are too but I hate her.

ok.that mail my post to teh board thingy didn't work-I didn't see my post on there soooooooooo, guess I'll jsut have to break down & use the ugly default posting......

but anyhoo--enough about me--

Well, from where I sit.....I think your child would still be wetting the bed whether they heard you arguing or not--UH HELLO>>>>EARTH TO CALI (committedandlovingit)......daddy is OUT of the house to stay w/ OC in OW home!!!!!!!!!!!

DUH! I figured your kids weren't actually around when the arguing was going on!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

ANd I'm w/ you-------if there NEVER was A to begin w/--------then there would not be that arguement now would there?
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I don't know how you do it....but get that strength from GOD & hang in there.

I will say a super prayer for you & H right now & rebuke those DEMONS from whence they came! & that STOW too!!!!!!

Here's today's update.

You guys are the bomb diggity! Thank you for all your prayers.

Update

Hi Kimmy,

I read your update. I feel so bad for you. That has to be incredibly hard. Your husband has gone back to his affair. I think you should do what MB says and expose. Talk to her boyfriend if you can and expose what is going on with your husband and OW. Expose to everybody you exposed to before. This is not right. They are making you suffer and Boyfriend of OW. There needs to be consequences to their behavior.