You and your husband need to take control here. If it has been determined that he is the bio father of the oc, you can sue her right now!

She is hiding his child from him. Sure, neither of you want anything to do with them. BUT, you can really level her in the courts for running and "kidnapping" his bio child. Slam her hard on this. Go after her. You will have the law on your side real quick.

This is to protect you two from demands later for CS and having to pay back support. SUE HER. Bring her up on kidnapping charges. Doesn't mean you have to have any contact with oc at all. But she can't do this. And that is the whole point. SHE CAN'T KIDNAP THIS CHILD. I would nail her but to the wall on this. If you are lucky, she will be in deep trouble. She may be forced to pay legal fees, etc. Then she will learn to leave you two alone. Fight back.

WOW Gemini thats awful I can relate to your situation and thank god mine never really got that out of control yet. KNOCK ON WOOD

So my husband can sue her for kidnapping?

Can he do it on his own or does he need a lawyer?

I will suggest it to him, the problem here is the woman is on welfare (the real reason she had the child) a free ride on the system.

My husband said he said it didnt matter whos kid it was(his or the husbands or the other men) he gave her money to abort it. She took the money and said ok, then said she did then later after it was too late said no she didnt - she wanted it, so she wouldnt have to work and could get some health insurance through the welfare system and food stamps for the kid ect.
using the child as a ways to get financial stability.
So we find out through her sister in law that the husband prob cant father kids and is being the father to this child, even now that he found out its not his. We dont know for sure but were also told by one of the OW former roommates that she is pregnant again with another married mans child. WOW if thats true. Her poor husband must be a doormat and believe her outrageous lies or else HE wouldnt logically be with her.

Cor,

First off, welcome and I am sorry that you have to be here. I agree with LynnG, KT and some of the others and here's my two cents.

Second, I think you H is wrong to plot this with her XH but that is not your concern.

Third, if she was married when she got preg. to you H, in the Courts eyes the child is her H's unless DNA is done. OW played games with her H and your H by not getting DNA done.

Fourth, you are NOT responsible for you H paying support to his OC. You income is not included and your are not his probation officer that is supposed to make sure he pays.

Well I am not sure you understood I made my husband sue her for a paternity test that the courts finally made her submit to in March 2004.

We found out in April 2004 that my husband is the bio father.

Not too long after that her husband found this out as well. He and she divorced June 2004. ONly at her insisting that she wanted to pay back my husband for cheating with her so her husband and she can spend all the CS she gets. Her husband to this day is claiming the OC as his no one knows the wiser were they live. I know this because in JULY i spoke with his sister that lives here in my state.
I also know that recently the xow started a new case for Child Support against my husband because My Lawyer told be how to look up the dockets to see whats pending. My husband didnt know this till i just told him at the beginning of this month. He has yet to be served.

My husband and the xow's father are in together to get the child away from the ow NOT her husband. Her husband has the OW and the child as a happy family living in a far off state, with no one the wiser in the community.

I hope that clears it up for you.

I am tired of it all. I am tired of the crazy crap the psycho keeps sending my way. She is obsessed with me (I really dont know why).
She contacts me in various ways and threatens me indirectly now because of the warrants out for her arrest in this state.
I just recently reported her for welfare fraud. Maybe she will be too preoccupied with that to bug me and my household.
I just want away from all the sick to my stomach feeling that dont get a chance to fade or die away due to the constant reminders.