Luv,

I know it will take a lot for you to ignore H's comments, but I think G123 is totally right on, be silent, since you have moved out can't u plan b?

Talking to him, arguing w/ him, listening to him complain about things you did not do right in the past is helping what?

He says he won't repent to God, has he even repented to you? Has he truly taken ownership of the mess he caused w/ A & his seeing OC & OW still? It sounds like from his latest email he is moving toward that but, he needs to let go of what he thought you didnt' do a far as being Mrs. Cleaver. Is that really the issue at hand? Is that why you no longer chose to live w/ him? NO & he knows it, it is a diversion tactic, anything to throw the focus off him & what HE needs to do if he wants you back.

Pray over it Luv, but I would go dark right about now, be selfish & think about YOURSELF, you don't need him playing these word games w/ you if he has no action to back it up like legal V, DNA, counseling, a true commmitment to work on his control issues & to leave the past in the past & not expect you to be "superwoman" ever again.

JMHO

Love you!

I'm with Gio--let him sort it out in silence. LEave out you POV and just stay dark--he needs to do this all on his own. I pray that he is near figuring it out and near the turning point.

BIG HUGS

Yes ladies I have to agree with you all. Each of you have made very good points.

I am not overly optimistic or excited. I am not where I was the last time he came home to me...like oh this is all I have wanted. I am still not sure I even want this right now. My love bank is on empty. However, I will take MY time and see what happens.

He has made some good statements that appear that either one, his eyes are beginning to open or two he is finally voicing what he has know all along. He admitted that seeing OC at OW's was his crutch to continue to see OW even if he really had no feelings for her. Guess it's kind of like Nio's H. He was fine until he realized OW was truly not his anymore. At least I think it's like that.

We shall see if he puts in place any of the changes I need. My C wants me to write him a letter about what I need. I will put a little bit of plan B in there too. We shall see. If this works, I would only have God to thank.