Genia..

You are SUCH a kind lady and this is killing us here!

You are now allowing this man to take away the light that God wants in your soul! Daaarling you CAN DO THIS!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

dear GENIA, sweetheart YOU ARE NOT LIVING.. DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART THIS MAN IS WHO GOD HAS PLANNED FOR YOU? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> And if he is for you-- which I SERIOUSLY AND COMPLTELY DO NOT BELIEVE.. NOT at this time in his F-ED UP LIFE/LIFESTYLE.

I know so many of his kind-- more than you'd ever believe!! He is a text-book case of his upbrining by a family and role models who did the same.
Unless he wants God to change his life COMPLETELY, he will most likely never be faithful to anyone or respect ANY woman. You are fighting a losing battle at this time.

Genia, please answer me this- do you want to wake up 5 or 10 YEARS FROM NOW when you are much older and less vivrant. YOU ARE STILL YOUNG! You may not FEEL it right now, but beleive me- you rid him of your life NOW and you WILL begin to feel healthier and more ccontent- YOU WILL HAVE A LIFE THAT IS POSITIVE.

Please honey do NOT WASTE any more time OUT OF FEAR!!GOD says FEAR NOT- FOR I AM WITH YOU!!!!!

<small>[ September 25, 2004, 10:07 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:56 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>

Hi Baba,

That was good. I know I am struggling but I am certain my time of trauma is soon over. I felt a love for this man like I never felt before. I love men with boyish youthful spirits. He has that which I am attracted to, however; his resentment and anger has overtaken him to a point that I do not think there is hope for him. I feel sad for him in the path he has chosen to walk. He thinks he is doing good, but I know pride cometh before a fall. I feel that if he walks away from my love he will fall. I feel sad for him because I care what happens to him even though he hurts me.

Genia,

I still feel as though you are making excuses for your H. He is not worthy of you and will never leave you if he has a choice, but will continue to do the same thing that he has always done. He will not respect you, love you or anything of that nature because he does not know how or does not care to. Please you have given him enough time to get his act together or get in house in order. He does not do it because he knows deep down that he doesn't have to. You are not going anywhere! He knows that you will never go anywhere. you are so deperate for his love that you have given him the power over you to do whatever he wants to do!

Tell me what fool would ever give that up completely. NONE! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
he is a user and a abuser and you are his prime target because you need him / his attention / his misguided concern / HIS LOVE ( so you think).

I thnk that he has no clue as to what love is. He'll never know because he is not concerned with anyone other than himself. That includes STOW. He has no real concern for her as well. Please don't stay and become a statistic. You deserve better and GOD has better for you. You know this!!!

I say leave his butt - Plan B is even to good for this Fool ( don't get me wrong I don't mean to hurt your feelings or disrespect your H, but I have come to care about you a great deal and I am aNGRY as HELL!)! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Talk to me,

JT

Hi JT,

Thanks for your honest opinion. I know you are right. He has told me that he loves me and hates me. I guess that means he only loves me when I am bowing under his control and letting him do what the hell he wants to do. Thanks so much for caring about me. I know I need to work at getting him out of my house. He is only with me because I take care of him though he denys it.

Genia,

I hope you do what is best for you, just know that you so have us in your corner when you need us. You don't have to have him in oyur life to be loved. God has just what you need and will gove it to you when you are ready, but you have to make the first move. You have to make the decision to trust him and chose him above all else.

I know that it can be hard but it is a must in order to be happy and have peace in your life. I am not trying to p[reach, but have come to this realization myself and find it to be the only truth that I can count on.

Love ya,

JT

Hi JT,

Thank you for your support. I will try and be more positive and I am going to therapist today. I do need husband out of my life. I know he loves me but he is getting more and more controlling. He wants everything his way. I feel lost. I need to do me.

<small>[ September 28, 2004, 10:35 AM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>