</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by giovanna123:
<strong> I have always thought that any OW who names their baby after MM is just strange/weird.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Curious, if you divorced your husband, would you change your children's last name to yours?

I am divorced and my child still has his fathers last name, but I changed my last name. His father abandoned us when he was 4 months old. My son still has his father's last name... I asked him if he ever wants to change it I will be glad to do that for him... he has no desire to do so... and he is almost 17 years old now.

I dont find that strange or weird at all, as a matter of fact its seems quite the norm to give a child the father's last name.

As far as my "OC" ...oc has both my last name & mm's last name hyphenated. MM wanted OC to only have "HIS" last name... but I wasnt thrilled, his last name is a tough one, and I wanted our child to have a choice if need be, upon reaching adulthood as to use one or the other last name.

I know someone with the last name of Dickhoss (sp?). Not sure whick one is worse Fuchs for Dickhoss. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

How about a last name of Gondick?

I dont find that strange or weird at all, as a matter of fact its seems quite the norm to give a child the father's last name.

Nycmedic...

I think most of us wouldn't find that too unusual for the child to carry the fathers name....

But what blew me away is Cheerful changing her last name to the same as the MM!

Thats not normal <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I could see if she changed her name to her mother's maden name....concidering the name and all. Or even change the spelling...But this? I think there is more to it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I just thought this the craziest thing I have ever heard... I even mentioned it to my H...he just thought that is too weird... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I agree, she could have gone with her mother's maiden name or something like that. It's too creepy if you ask me, and it seems like it shouldn't be legal (I know it is legal, just doesn't seem right...)

Jenny,
This is what I was told. If the father's name is on the birth certificated then he is entitled to a copy: if not then the only the mother or maternal grandma can get a copy.

Did your H sign the birth certificated at birth? If not then he would have to go to court and get his name put on the birth certificated pending DNA. It does not matter if you a paper saying DNA proves he is the father. His name has to be on the birth certificated. Usually, if CS was set up in the courts then they should have set a court date to add his name to the birth certificated. At least that is how it is done in Wisconsin.

And if there was a name change and he is on the birth certificated as the father then they would have to get his permission to change it. If not then she could have changed it by herself.


Dawn

Thank you Dawn. That explains it.

H was not there, did not sign, and xow wasn't even 100% sure if OC would be his... but DNA after birth showed it was. Court never brought up getting H on the bc. Can it be left blank?!

Yes it can be left blank. But all she has to do is take a certified copy of the order from the judge to the health department and have him added it on to once the JUDGE has ordered and declared he is the father.

Jenny,
Well, I know on our possible OC it states unknown father. I believe they don't leave it blank just states unknown father.

My H's friend was not sure who the father was. And when she filed for CS she had to get three men tested because she did not know who the father was. Then when the DNA results came back the court automatically set up two court dates one for the guys name to be added to the birth certificated and the other was for child support.

I guess you guys can ask ex-OW for a copy of BC. Or you guys can petition the court to have your H's name put on the BC.

Another way is that your H and ex-OW sign a Voluntary Paternity Acknowledgment and have this form notarized (witnessed). Then you guys go down to the court house and have his name put on the BC. Otherwise, BC will say unknown father until this is done.


Dawn

<small>[ October 21, 2004, 12:49 PM: Message edited by: Dawn71 ]</small>

LBelle,
My OC has her our last name. When we had our last court date, we asked for a name change. The first judge hyphenated OW's last name with H's last name.
So the next judge changed it. We asked for a more "traditional" surname. Some Mexicans use the mother's maiden name as a middle name, such as my H's name. He changed it to S**** Ow's maiden name then H's last name. He completely dropped the middle name given by mom.

ent

well I am not even going to touch the whole name change...kinda made me want to throw up too!!

My D has her father's last name. At the time, he insisted and we had all planned for consistant contact (yes the BW too). I didn't even fill out the paperwork at the hospital, he did. I was not well. I have a bizarre last name, which would not work with my D's first name so I haven't changed it. I am hoping that one day I will meet a great guy, who will adopt her and then it can be changed. Barring that, I will let her decide when the time comes.

If I had known then what I know now, I would NEVER have allowed her to have her father's name. It just complicated everything a little bit more.