Thank you, SavingGrace, for the apology you give. I have come across a few OW's in this forum who have the compassion and heartfelt sorrow for what they have caused. I'm sure I'm speaking for most BS's in this forum when I say that we do appreciate hearing these things from OW/OM's. Nobody wins in these situations. Everyone (including OW's/OM's, WS's) are hurt. There are definitely lessons to be learned by all! Thanks again.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Saving Grace:
<strong> GiveItToGod~
Although she is due in 4 months and there is a risk to both mother and child (small) you could have an amniocentisis performed to get DNA now. I would wait a day longer though because there is a time limit on the weeks of pregnancy that you can no longer do the test.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I meant WOULDN'T wait a day longer. Sorry <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Thank You Michelle~ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Saving Grace, I agree w/ everything Michelle said. So many times there is so much bitterness in these situation, and I respect you for taking your responsibility in this. Michelle's right, no one wins in an A. I'm sorry for the pain you and H are in, and I will say a prayer for you and your situation. Hang in there w/ H. It sounds like he hasn't given up yet. Things may still improve. It takes a lot of time, and it is all still very new since your child has not yet been born.

If any of you have never heard an apology from any OM or OW, then I'm am sorry for all the devastation we have caused your friends and families. I wish this on no one

It means a LOT to me because the OW in my situation just told me flat out that she needed my ex to raise the baby and be a family with- and even though she didn't mean to get pg, she did want out of her marriage and she guessed she just picked a bad way to do it!?!?!?!?
I sometimes wonder if she is even sorry now. For some reason it matters to me. I guess because I feel like she stole something that should have been only mine (my h's sperm to make a baby) and then acted like she was justified in it.
So thanks and I hope you are all right and that your H will forgive you and be a father to your child and be the husband you need him to be.

Thank You adgirl48~

I never thought if I was pregnant it force the other man to be a father to my child. How can someone be as sick and twisted. I know how you feel about your H's sperm. I would feel the same way. She stole more though, she stole something sacred between the two of you, your trust, your belief that your husband was true to only you, your faith in him that he be faithful to you and so much more. I know you know that but when I write it it makes me understand just what I myself did. Its a long road for all of us I guess.


GiveItToGod~

I'm sorry for post jumping, Autumn Day opened a post under Saving Grace.

SG

give it to God- Sorry about the Threadjack!

Thanks for all the encouragment. I could not have made it this far without the grace of God and the comfort I have found in Jesus Christ. My vow to God is important to me and it is because of this divorce hasn't been an option.

Saving Grace - trust in God. Put all of your faith and hope in Him and He will restore your family. Remember the Lord hates divorce.

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Also see my signature. It may be that God has not accomplished in you the thing that he is using these trials to mold you into.

God Bless you.

I got what I needed from this post. It may be nice to have more about our situation in the same spot so the next person can find it.

Thank you.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by GiveItToGOD:
<strong> Thanks for all the encouragment as well.

It may be that God has not accomplished in you the thing that he is using these trials to mold you into.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I believe this to be very significant and very true.

I would like to write you signature down to carry with me as a reminder if you don't mind?

Thank You for allowing me to be a part of your post. I think your right just as you came along with your post it helped me move forward it may still be valuble to others.....

Please keep us informed as to how things go with you. As I will do the same.

~Many Blessings~
SG

GiveItToGod,

I am curious about something. Is the OM that you are dealing with the same one you were dealing with almost two years ago? If so, I am assuming that the A resumed or it never ended.

I commend you for your stance on this child but I am deeply concerned because it appears that neither you or your W have left your jobs with OM and his W. Is that true? My concern is that this A will reignite unless there is NO CONTACT with OM.

There is a saying that states "God helps those that help themselves." It seems to me that unless there is no contact your chances of having the marriage succeed and thus being able to raise all of your children and possible OM's are less than you think. That is unless your W having another A with OM does not bother you or would not lead you to divorcing her. Then I suppose, things will be fine no matter what.

Please tell me that your has established NC with the OM. If this has not happened then I do fear for your family and your marriage.

God Bless,

JL