As someone who has lived through the agony of being an adultress, I speak from experience. (Been there, done that, have the t-shirt). The emotional "fix" you are getting now will only lead to shame and regret. Eventually you will be found out. I pray you find the courage to ask your husband's forgiveness and seek counselling right away. I didn't and will regret it the rest of my life.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Princess of Amir:
[QB]I have been married for a little over 5 years, havea 2 year old little girl who I adore

DEAR UNFAITHFUL WIFE,

Good sex is very addictive. But outside of marriage it is deadly. You've been blinded by your own passions and incredible selfishness. You are head for misery. Pleasure is so incredibly fleeting. It's there and it's gone and then it's there and it's gone. Nothing permanent about it. What you really are looking for is total and overwhelming satisfaction--being wanted and needed and loved.

UNFORTUNATELY, you will end up with NONE of that in the end. You are not the first nor the last to walk down that deadly and frightfully ugly path. It is so alluring and so deceptive. Chances are you are trapped by your own cravings. Without help from above you won't be able to untangle yourself.

You need to think about the appearance of your sould--LOOK AT THE BEAUTY OF THE SOUL OF YOUR TWO-YEAR OLD. Look in your toddler's eyes and see eternity. YOUR LUST has destroyed the BEAUTY OF YOUR SOUL. The more you go down the lustful path the uglier and more decrepit your soul becomes.

No hope, but to look to your Creator, your Rescuer.

THIS POSTER HAS NOT BEEN ON MB SINCE MARCH 2002.

Man .... she sure draws attention .... in her absence LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Everyone needs to notice the date of the entry, its been over a year ago, shes not posting, your answering a message that noone is home to read...make sure you check the dates

I'm a new member. My wife and I have been married for 14 years, and we have two beautiful children. I just found out about a month ago, that while on a business trip, my wife kissed a co-worker. She's assured me that it stopped at just that...a kiss. But, I can't help but wonder if anything else happened. I've been in social situations with this guy and his family, and of course, with my wife and our two children. I saw how she interacted with him, but I would just often dismiss it. Now, as I look back, all I can think about is how happy she was when we were in the company of this guy and his family. It tears me apart.

We're going to counseling now, and I realize that I need to focus on getting "us" back to where we were in our early years of marriage. However, until I put all of these thoughts that I have about my wife and her co-worker out of my mind, I can't seem to focus on what I need to do to heal "us". It's killing me, and I don't know what to do. This is the hardest thing that I've ever had to cope with in my adult life. I cry and cry, and I can barely function.

Me

NOT KNOW IS SOMETIMES THE HARDEST THING! BUT REMEMBER THAT YOU NEED TO DEPEND ON GOD FOR YOUR ANSWER. HIS GRACE IS SUFFIENT. IVE WENT THRUOGH THIS MYSELF AND IT TAKES TIME TO DEAL WITH THE BETRAYAL AND THE DEVIL WILL USE THIS TO LIE TO YOU... BUT GOD IS YOUR ANSWER AND YOU MUST GET CLOSER TO HIM THAN EVER AND YOU WILL SEE THE TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN AGAIN... REMEMBER THAT THIS PROBLEM IS GOD DEVEOLPING YOUR CHARCTER AND HE WILL SEE YOU THOUGH.
MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU..IM PRAYING FOR U.

And remember aimsiram you can only work on you in counseling, it's up to your wife to work on herself. So the getting "us" back is really an effort of 2 people, not just 1. If your wife truely stopped and desires change you will know by her actions and not her words. Hang in there, God is faithful.

I would just like to say this. Any man that is single will listen to and console you to get laid. Not every man will listen and console you for nothing in return. Set your priorities, and pick one. As a husband, if I ever found out my wife was cheating on me, I would be in prison for life. And trust me, it wouldn't be for going after the single guy that was just trying to get a piece. It would be for going after the woman that had led me into the tangled web of lies and deciet. I hope for your sake that your husband is more of an emotional person than a physical person.

Please stop, now! I am a betrayed spouse, and cannot begin to tell you of the pain that an affair causes! Whatever needs you have, ,you must communicate them to your husband and let him fill them. Oh I beg you, stop.

Summerstorm

Wow. That's one lesson I NEVER wish to experience. A lifetime of regret.

That's what having an affair nets you for the most part. Lost loves never reclaimed. Dashed dreams and a path of sorrow sowed behind in your footsteps. Don't bother having an affair. It's a copout!

IMO, it really does't matter that the poster hasn't been here for a couple years. Obviously people feel the need to reply and I believe there has been some good advice given...to more that just the poster.

What if your lover turns on you and tells about the affair. I really believe that you love what you are doing but is it worth the risk of everyone finding out especially since you are neglecting your child and lieing to everyone to make time for this man? Wow! I hope you stop this soon.

A lifetime of them. That's an unfortunate thing.

If you dont want to stop nothing we can say will make you stop. Just realize your hubby and daughter WILL suffer for all your actions..

lol the original post was made in 2002.... five years and the OP has never replied

yet ppl keep wanting to take frustration out on her

guess thats sorta funny and not sorta funny at the same time