Janie & Sue,<BR>Thanks for the replys....<P>It is hard to see it reduced to assets and liabilities on a piece of paper... nothing more than a balance sheet of our life together. <P>My love has died also, but the memories of our love, and thoughts about what could have been are what pull at me. I'm going to buy some pictures this weekend to replace the wedding pictures that are still up in my new home. I don't know what to do with them.... I have had a few slightly evil thoughts about sending the big portraite to the Twinky, but I guess I'll just hang on to it for a while..... the frame is really nice, and someday I'll use it again.<P>If it wern't so dry here this year, I'd just have a bon-fire and be done with it! <P>Thanks for the thoughts & prayers.... they are returned in kind.<P>Butterfly<BR>getting ready to soar to great hights....<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Hi Butteryfly,<P>I'm sorry about what's going on right now. Wish I could say something to make you feel better! Anyway, I'm just posting to tell you I'm thinking of you! I'll try to send you an email next week if I'm not too busy at work. I still owe you my life story <P>--andy

Andy,<BR>Thanks Pal! I will watch my email. I've been really busy too, and I need to get to it.<BR>Let me know how things are going on your end.<BR>B<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Butterfly,<BR>I'm late on this thread as well. It is difficult to read of you and Sue experiencing the heart tug, even at this stage. I agree with both of you that there may come a time when you've done everything, and even if your spouse is just beginning to try, there's nothing left. I read Plan B again and it says (paraphrased) that if there is no reconciliation...the love will fade through the process.<P>I'm praying and feeling melancholy for you.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BUTTERFLY}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Lor