Getting Better....<P>Just as you have advised....move forward....my therapist recommended the same thing.<P>I believe that I am doing that, but my problem is that I'm still trying to make sense of all of this. But I'm unable to, because affairs don't make sense anyway!<P>I think that another thing that bothers me is I feel that not all my questions were answered. My H says that he has answered everything, but we can be talking about it months later...and then I will find out something new.<P>Dr. H says that most people would wish to be in the recovery position that I am in now in my marriage. I know that...but boy does all of this still hurt.<P>p.s. Thank you for your support. I'm so glad to have a male's perspective on things. I hope your recovery will be completely successful. <p>[This message has been edited by NoTrust (edited March 23, 2000).]

No Trust,<P> I am a software Engineer someone what makes a living using Logic. This beloved Logic is what did the damage to my marriage. Affairs have no logic and trying to apply any will drive you nuts.<P><BR> I still do not have all of my answers. I think it comes from the Spouse trys to minized what happened. They try and keep the secret. My wife at first claimed only and emtional affair but she felt bad. I can up with this plan to show her she wasn't a bad person and they she did stop before anything happened. Well, that was the day I found out because she didn't stop at some point. I'm sure I will ever know the whole true but ask yourself this.<P>What's the difference the bottom line is still the same. <P> If you harp on it it will drive you crazy. The next time you know you'll be having anxiety attacks and looking for a good anti-depressent.<P> You can be everything your husband ever dreamed of and more. When your ready I tell you about how I turned our past sex life into a joke and found a new level MUCH MUCH higher. I just hope to get back there some day. For how try and move on<P>