<snip>my H and I discussed over again the reasons for our divorce and he ended up telling me that I had failed him in his opinion as a wife - that I didn't live up to my end of the bargain. </snip><P>Monen, did you know what "your end of the bargain" was in the first place? If your marriage has any similarity to mine, the issue of expectations causes much conflict. My H has expectations placed on me that I never agreed to. It works both ways. I have expectations of him too. I'm usually disappointed. <P><snip>He is now treating me like a leper although he is continuing to go to counseling (we are only on our 2nd session). </snip><P>What is the motivation here? Newbie, think about it -- why would your wife take you back if you're filling her days with disrespectful judgements? Monen, you don't want to be treated that way! <P>I hope you two keep posting. You seem to have similar communication breakdowns that I have with my H. I honestly don't know how to communicate with my H. I don't make him happy. He doesn't make me happy. Give me something I can learn from.

Monen<P>I've Been wondering if you were still lurking? Multiple Personalities can definitely add to a problem in a marriage. But if it helps the two of you to talk this out in this manner, I think you should give it a try...<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Lacee (edited May 03, 2000).]

I'm still here... taking in what everyone is saying. Our 2nd counseling session is in about an hour and I'm hoping to accomplish something. My husband and I seem to have gotten past the worst of things (I hope), but we'll just have to work and wait and see. <P>I appreciate everyone's comments - my husband says he is no longer reading them but who really knows... They are helping me put things into perspective though, which was my point in posting. It's helping me to realize that this isn't the worst thing I could be going through and to remember to pray for all the others here going through problems.<P>Thanks to those who posted and I'm willing to hear more if anyone else has anything to add!