I am a chatty person, but sometimes when I am nervous about something or I don't think I am getting my point across without too much extra garbage, I write a long (short) note.<BR>People feel less threatened by a note because they do not feel like they are being pressured for an immediate response. You can get all your thoughts out, re-read them to see if they make sense and hand them over knowing it is what you really want to say. <P>The other good thing about notes is that the emotions do not get out of control...in our situations emotions run high and sometimes it does not lend to getting your thoughts heard. <P>My H and I write a lot when he is on the road and I know we could talk for an hour on the phone and I may be hesitant to say something and then I go write a 10 page letter!!! It gives him something to go back over to and see where I was at...<P>Hope this helps.