mthrrhbard (& others),<P>The idea of this website is to seek guidance and support to save your marriage if possible. If not possible then to do what you can to get through marriage problems (mostly infidelity) with as little emotional trauma as possible. All of this is designed using the <B>Marriage Builders</B> techniques.<P>Not modifying them as much as you want, but trying to stick to them as close as possible.<P>Granted, MB will not always save a marriage & there are other ways which may be more effective in different situations, but <B>generally</B> they work.<P>If you or others do not wish to use these techniques then that is fine with everyone (or should be). After all, the marriage is yours & how you choose to deal with it is very personal. After all, you are the one who has to live with the results. If you are following a course of action which you feel is most beneficial to you & your marriage, <B>great!</B> However, it doesn’t mean what you choose to do is for everyone.<P>If you choose to follow MB techniques, then we can help.<P>SS4N, I understand what you are saying but LIL posted on this thread and said, “because we are, for the most part, in Plan B.”<P>As the commercial says, “<B>JUST DO IT!</B><P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Chris,<P>Quote<BR>"However, it doesn’t mean what you choose to do is for everyone."<P>I/we never said it was, and I've never seen anything on this website that says everyone must espouse and promote Harley methods in their entirety(sp?). Yes, we come here to learn and gather ideas on how to save our marriages. Different things work for different people and those methods that differ from what the Harley's promote should be laid out there for all to see and glean from them what we may find of benefit. For those of us who have been very successful with a combination of techniques,why should we hide it, just because it doesn't go along with MBers,especially if it can help and encourage someone who might be choosing to divert from a strictly Harley path in saving thier marriage? Yes, we are here to support each other above anything else and that includes being able to feel like we can speak up about other techniques without feeling we will be scolded for diverging from the Harley's methods. Peace and God bless you and the girls!<BR>

The day finally came...<BR>...my followup to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000177.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101</A>...<P>===><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000413.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 201</A>.<P>I expect a "Plan A - 201" in my future...<P> <P>Jim