Just wanted to say thanks...this thread was like eavesdropping on a conversation with women who are good freinds...it's honest, and varied...and I needed it.<P>I don't think I"ll be one of the lucky ones here whose Husband "gets it". He is happy with OW and is moving on. I am tired of being bitter, and would like to turn the corner on my pain and get on with life. This post helped me see that this is indeed possible. <P>I hope I can get to the point where I can communicate with him even a bit. Where does Plan B stop, and reality set in? I mean...we will need to speak at some point...we have 3 teenagers. I told him not to contact me in any way, and he hasn't, other than a note.<P>Anyway, I'm ranting...thanks ladies for sharing, you are teaching also.<P>allison

Well Schizzo, after 2 miles on the bike, 2 miles on the elliptical trainer, 300 crunches, and the free weight routine I do, I feel a whole lot better. Still am working on those abs though.....<P>I finally told him that he needs to make a decision soon based on what he wants, not waiting for her ultimatum date. We'll see what happens I guess.<P>I just ordered Passionate Marriage yesterday, so hopefully that will help us, too.<P>I cannot wait to get to the point of feeling free. Right now I'm still bogged down in limboland.....<P>Allison---I always read your posts and you have very good advice to read. I am glad that you found this post helpful. I know it's been for me even though I haven't yet turned that corner on the pain! I am really sorry that your H doesn't seem to be coming out of the fog. But you are doing so well. You are a very strong woman and are doing great with your kids. Keep your chin up and we are all praying for you!