Hear is a question I want to get answers to; when a couple has had sex over their married years together, do you feel most of the time it is passionate love-making or is most of the time it is just sex?<BR>example(20% passion/ 80% sex)<P>The reason I ask is because my wife and I had a discussion the other day and she said that for our 9-1/2 years of marriage that our love-making was more sex and that there was not very many times when it seemed passionate!! I tried to make it passionate, but it seems I can't do that and she said I seemed inhibited in some way!<P>So give me a feeling of what people think there love life is like if you would please!<P>I usually post on the "just found out" forum. My wife had (can't tell if its over) an emotional affair and wants to move out!

I understand you very much. Your wife is feeling unsatisfied both emotionally and sexually. You must act fast bfore she's gone, we women are sexually satisfied with emotions. My advice to you is to do the little things that you used to do when you first where dating, the just because flowers, a romantic card, etc. Have sex with her mind first and go out on dates, make the time for her. After many years of marriage you must keep the flame alive. Compliment her and make her feel sexy, wanted, important, listen to her and ask her how was her day, etc... If you don't, well someone else will.....trust me! There's a book called 101 ways to Great Sex, it's a great book you should buy it and tell her that you want to add some mistery and spice to your love/sex life, you can do it together and you'll start to feel closer together.<P>But most importantly, pray to God for your marriage and he will listen!!