<BR>schizzo writes:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>But my h has talked about wanting something like this for a long time...I have lightly told him it would have to be with another guy, that shut him up...<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I've heard of one other instance where a woman said this to her H. And I want to repeat my reply. I think saying this is a pretty bad idea, because your H might just take you up on the offer!<P>Bystander<P>

Bystander,<P>Thanks for the warning, but he would be far too jealous. No, he likes the idea of two women, and it is odd that we can both get turned on watching two women in a movie (don't watch porn, but they aired "The incredible ligthness of being" the other night and there was a little bit of that). I find it rather hard to figure since I've never done anything with another woman and don't think I would.<P>afraidtofaceyouguys - are you ok? you haven't come back...<P>Don't know if it helps you to know you are not alone in getting turned on by the idea, I have never been placed in that situation and after reading your reaction, hope I won't. More than that I guess I need to continue to tell h no if he brings it up again...

<BR>schizzo writes:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Thanks for the warning, but he would be far too jealous.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Uhhh, actually I was referring to the possibility that YOU might become jealous, if you get my drift. <P>Bystander

you guys are the best!!!! this is the last time i will post under this name but thank you all so much for your help and for not alienating me.<P>schizzo, if you've been hurt by your husband than trust me you don't want to do what i did. it takes a couple extremely secure in their relationship to do this with no regrets. i don't think anybody here is that secure also i wouldn't have it be anybody that lives really close to you where the possibility of continued contact. for me i couldn't handle watching my husband get that involved with another woman. period. don't do it, it's not worth it, and the fantasy is overrated. even h says so now!<BR>

My H was obsessed with talking me into a 3some last summer and as intriging as it sounded I know I'm not secure enough and our marriage is definately not stable enough. I was intrigued because I did feel that if I could please my H in every way, shape, and form he wouldn't stray again. I know in my heart of hearts that I would never, ever do this, but it crossed my mind in saving our marriage. My H said his brother and exgirlfriend had asked him to partake and I'm not so sure it <B>didn't</B> happen, but i do know it didn't happen with me and I feel good about that. My BIL is not with this woman anymore and I'm comforted by that - I had heard she was a wild one. I met her a couple times, but it was with the whole family so she was on good behavior. <P>I'm sorry you are going through this emotional turmoil!<P><P>------------------<BR>"People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt