Josie,<p>Can you hold a seminar for some of our wives? There are a few of us that have gone weeks/months without SF.........and we are not a bunch of ugly dudes.<p>When we are meeting their ENs, as mine has said I am, and they are still withholding some of our ENs, like SF, what is a man to do??<p>Any chance you can talk to our wives?? [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

I am one of those who wants it more than my husband does--I think that I enjoy it more than he does when we do it, as well. Oh, yeah, on the occasions that he initiates there's no stopping him, but those times are getting fewer and far between.<p>Last week was frustrating for me--I wanted it so bad, and he wouldn't touch me. One night, we even laid in bed watching tv, and I caressed him and cuddled him for over an hour. He was unresponsive. He rolled over and went to sleep. A little unhappy, I went and turned the tv off, and he said "Hey! I was watching that!"<p>I was so completely wound up, so I had to go sleep on the couch for a while.<p>His reason for being unromantic? He had a rough week at work, he says. Now I thought SF would be the perfect cure for too much stress at work, right?<p>So, I think that this lack of interest in sex is shared between the two genders.<p>I have heard of some couples that do it every night before they go to sleep. Lucky. I rack out early, my husband is a night-owl and stays up at least an hour after I go to bed, so I am out of luck there. <p>I have to wait until Saturday mornings, usually, regardless if I want it or not throughout the week.

Do you have a sister???<p>I am kidding of course.......just a 34 yr. old male, with a very attractive wife that provides no SF.....<p>I always thought that was a male thing.....it is interesting to see that females actually have a need for a little love making too.......<p>This may be to personal to ask, but how old is your husband?

These are good stuff, friends. My issue/concern is that after having such a passionate lovemaking every night last week, wife seemed to be a bit tired last few nights. I wasn't. So, I am wondering/worry why is it so? Is it only a sex drive issue, or emotional part as well? Please, advice.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Bernzini:
<strong>I am one of those who wants it more than my husband does--I think that I enjoy it more than he does when we do it, as well. Oh, yeah, on the occasions that he initiates there's no stopping him, but those times are getting fewer and far between.<p>Last week was frustrating for me--I wanted it so bad, and he wouldn't touch me. One night, we even laid in bed watching tv, and I caressed him and cuddled him for over an hour. He was unresponsive. He rolled over and went to sleep. A little unhappy, I went and turned the tv off, and he said "Hey! I was watching that!"<p>I was so completely wound up, so I had to go sleep on the couch for a while.<p>His reason for being unromantic? He had a rough week at work, he says. Now I thought SF would be the perfect cure for too much stress at work, right?<p>So, I think that this lack of interest in sex is shared between the two genders.

I have heard of some couples that do it every night before they go to sleep. Lucky. I rack out early, my husband is a night-owl and stays up at least an hour after I go to bed, so I am out of luck there. <p>I have to wait until Saturday mornings, usually, regardless if I want it or not throughout the week.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>This is driving me absolutely nuts! So many of us are married to women who could care less about sex, yet there are obviously many woman who do enjoy sex. I wish I could figure out why the women that have a high need for SF end up with men that have a low need for SF and the men that have a high sex drive end up with women that have a low need for SF. My wife will not even allow me to try to give her an orgasm the last few months. She will have intercourse with me once or twice a week but if try to stimulate her orally or with my fingers she lets me know that she doesn't want me to continue. It is all very frustrating!<p>
His reason for being unromantic? He had a rough week at work, he says. Now I thought SF would be the perfect cure for too much stress at work, right?
For me SF would be the cure!<p>[ May 20, 2002: Message edited by: Want Love ]</p>

Wow, what a great thread! I am a woman and even I'm learning. Let's continue to share.<p>Here's what works for me. Sometimes we feel like a quickie and sometimes we'll book out an evening for this after the kids are in bed. Whoever said it is 99% mental for women is correct. The anticipation and innuendos during the day make it build up.<p>I know my husband likes it when I'm shaved down there so I'm sure to have a shower and look my best. This also increases my confidence and I'm not distracted by hygiene matters. A glass of wine to relax me and a massage are great to build trust. I bought myself and my husband some books on this matter as we are not equipped with manuals and how on earth is the guy supposed to know what to do when half the time the woman doesn't even know? Especially if she can't bring herself to orgasm. I may be out of the ordinary but pornography helps as well. Also, if my husband takes his time and touches me all over except for the you-know-what, it drives me crazy. I'm begging for him to touch me there after a while. Most of us take a little longer to reach orgasm than men, and we need a lot more touching and emotional connection as well.<p>Finally, I have found variety is the spice of life. Quickies, role playing, pleasing each other orally, toys, etc.. I was terribly embarassed to try any toys out and my husband perpetuated this with his "Madonna complex" image of me. In fact, I was dying to try these but was way too embarassed to tell him about any of my sexual needs. After completing Dr. Harley's EN questionnaire, I was finally very honest about myself and to my amazement my husband didn't judge me but loved my new attitude.<p>Hope this helps a bit. Bottom line - make her feel attractive, get a road map of that area and have fun. Maybe if she sees how much you are enjoying yourself the pressure will be off of her and she can relax and get into it.<p>Gosh, I hope I wasn't too explicit or offensive - just trying to help.

I did a reply instead of an edit.<p>[ May 20, 2002: Message edited by: Want Love ]</p>

Want Love,<p>THOSE ARE THE SAME QUESTIONS I HAVE??!!<p>I am fairly new to the site and really value the unbiased opinion of the married women here. <p>My wife is beautiful......I could literally make love to her everyday, so imagine how I feel now that it has been two months! She also just admitted to a scummy affair because " I am too good for her and she does not deserve me"......yep, a child abuse victim, so she thinks she deserves only losers.<p>She really enjoys love making........when I can get her to do it.......but it is not nearly enough for my ENs........neither is the affection part.........AHHHH,

Okay......very personal question......may be way out of line.......<p>Has anyone experienced this G spot orgasm that is supposed to make our lovely wives go completely insane? If so, does it make women want to be intimate more often? I understand it really blows the c******s orgasm away.......no contest?<p>If that is way too personal forgive me.......I am treading on delicate ground here.

Wow, we cover whole a lot of space with this subject, don't we? It is so complicated! Darn, it is supposed to be fun! In any event, it is true that it is 99% mental for woman, but, I started to believe that the rest 20-30% (kidding) is pure physical. It seems to me that some woman, like my wife, can have just THAT amount of sex life. Period. And it has not much to do with a mental part. Her body just can have so much of sex, that anything more just not attractive nor enjoyable. Does it make sense? Please.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by DazedConfused:
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Has anyone experienced this G spot orgasm that is supposed to make our lovely wives go completely insane? If so, does it make women want to be intimate more often? I understand it really blows the c******s orgasm away.......no contest?<p>If that is way too personal forgive me.......I am treading on delicate ground here.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>OMG YES!!!!!!!!! My hubby will kill me if he finds me talking about this stuff, but he knows i'm a very open person....<p>I've experianced many different ones...short ones, LONG ones, multiple...<p>My hubby says its not him but its me....that i put myself in that MENTAL state...i dissagree...his sexuality puts me their...and the fact that he talks to me and the fact that i want to turn him on so bad that i would say anything just to get him to the same place i am.....<p>
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by DazedConfused:
<strong>Josie,<p>Can you hold a seminar for some of our wives? There are a few of us that have gone weeks/months without SF.........and we are not a bunch of ugly dudes.<p>When we are meeting their ENs, as mine has said I am, and they are still withholding some of our ENs, like SF, what is a man to do??<p>Any chance you can talk to our wives?? [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] </strong><hr></blockquote><p>I would love to talk to your wives...hehehe<p>I would love to know y they don't crave it as much as you guys? Is there something wrong is being done to them? Is there something that you guys can do to turn them on? Are the men not pushing the right buttons? Do u guys conversate of "what turns you on"...or "do you like it when?"<p>Could it be that it HURTS? maybe its being done to ruff or maybe its being done to soft...maybe deep down inside she is a naughty kitty who wants to be spanked? COMMUNICATION is the key guys!<p>I ask for what i want and how i want it only cause he has made me confortable asking....<p>if you have any personal questions private message me...

I just those about something....<p>Maybe you guys need to change it up a bit... new position???<p>here is a kewl web site made by COSMO so she wont get mad thinking its some porn site...check it out and give some a try<p>
Kama Sutra~position of the week<p>give them a try and keep us all up to date<p>[ May 20, 2002: Message edited by: Josie ]</p>

Josie,<p>Thanks for not being to shy to share. <p>As you can see, I am looking for anything to get my wife "going"........she says I meet all the other needs, so I have to find some way to make this more enjoyable.<p>I have been reading about this G spot orgasm and that it absolutely blows a womans mind......I would love to see my wife enjoy our time together that way......so THANKS!<p>For you other guys out there, you may want to look into this.......there is nothing wierd about it, but apparently you will want to have a sound proof room when she is ready for this. All in love of course!!<p>I did a search on it to see doctor's opinions...it was very enlightening.......they say there is nothing like it!<p>Look out honey [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

Question for all the guys.....what can i do to get my hubby to want it more?

Wow! I have never met a guy that had an amorous wife that could not give her enough sex!<p>Have you explored the Emotional Needs questionaire? Are you recreating with him a lot? Going places with him? Do you tell him how much you admire him as a lover? That you go crazy in his arms?<p>May seem kinda corny, but telling him you NEED him physically should drive him crazy!! Also, use the females greatest gift.......YOUR EYES! A woman who knows how to send a message without speaking drives men nuts!<p>Just out of curiousity, how old is your guy?

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by DazedConfused:
<strong>Wow! I have never met a guy that had an amorous wife that could not give her enough sex!<p>Have you explored the Emotional Needs questionaire? Are you recreating with him a lot? Going places with him? Do you tell him how much you admire him as a lover? That you go crazy in his arms?<p>May seem kinda corny, but telling him you NEED him physically should drive him crazy!! Also, use the females greatest gift.......YOUR EYES! A woman who knows how to send a message without speaking drives men nuts!<p>Just out of curiousity, how old is your guy?</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I always tell him he drive me nuts, that his sent turns me on....that i love the way he holds me maybe i don't do it enough.....I always say how wonderful he is....not in those words but i'm like....WOW babe that was SO KEWL.....you were great...hi FIVE.......YES I GIVE HIM A HI FIVE<p>maybe he doesn't find me attrating? He tells me i'm cute all the time, that he loves my eyes, and he tells me he loves me ALL THE TIME...i just don't see it....he has gained weight in the last six months 50lbs due.......but i still love him...he can still rock the boat...he tells me he feels like he is going to have a heart attack...could that be true or he is just F~~king with me?<p>he is 24 and i'm turing 22 THURSDAY

Josie,<p>He is way to young to be having a heart attack......but that comment about weight may be at the heart of the issue.....he may be very insecure and no matter how much you tell him right now, he may not feel good about himself.......he may literally feel like he is going to lose you and he is pushing you away before he thinks you will.......I am 195, but have been as heavy as 220.........I cannot tell you what losing weight does for a guys psyche.<p>I am 34, married 15 years, I can tell you that you need to have a heart to heart with him and tell him you want more physical attention and just flat out ask him what it is about you that he finds attractive,.......ask him that while you are in his arms, after a glass of wine (beer) and then tell him AGAIN what drives you wild.<p>Also, can you help him with his weight without letting him know you are on to it? I have to go right now, but will look for your answer when I return

We got to talk tonight...but it was before I read you post...<p>I think maybe we did it the wrong way....we were playing for an hour or two and he said something about us having sex once a month...<p>I told him that really sucked and he said, i'm sorry but i have a lot of things on your mind. Then i told him, you always have a lot of things on your mind. Then he gave me that, I feel like i'm going to have a heart attack, my brain feels like its going to pop out, i get check pains...<p>Then i say, you should have thought about that before you ate that pizza....and he said you're right....silance came over us....I HELD IN EVERYTHING I WANTED TO SAY...like, people wonder y A happen....I know if i would have said that he would have killed me....Not that i'm thinking of having one but look at our sex life now and we are YOUNG...I did say that to him and he was like, Oh it must be horriable to have sex only once a week....<p>He talks about how much sex he has gotten that he doesn't crave it anymore....well news flash he is the only guy i've been with and i haven't gotten as much sex as he has.....its not fair.....maybe i should go out and **** someone else....then get back with him....maybe if i get it out of my system things will look better [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>we talked about his weight and rolled over and feel asleep........HE FELL ALSLEEP<p>I love him with all my heart but i don't want to marry a man who is unhealthy and doens't realize that its messing our relationship.....<p>i don't know what to do?

Josie:<p>Hold on don't do that! It will not make you feel better.<p>I am with a man who I always want it more than he does. Keep trying to discuss it. Without nagging, it is very hard because I don't want to wound his ego. But it has been very painful, to admit, my sexual needs are not being met.<p>But we do talk about it and it is getting better.<p>I agree with whoever said that the big O was tied to emotional things with women. I cant always take myself where I need to be mentally to have an O. But I am very orgasmic. I like to masturbate. I dont have a problem with self satisfaction. Sometimes I get a little frustrated with him and me. Because there are times when he actually does what I want and I still can't come! [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img]

Josie,<p>I know it is hard to be in a relationship where your partner is not meeting your SF.....trust me, my wife has froze me out for months before (currently we are on two months, no lovin,)<p>But if you really care about him, try to be patient. Having an affair to have your sexual needs met will make you feel dirty and used.....trust me IT IS NOT THE ANSWER! My wife has cheated on me twice........not for sex.....but because she was abused as a child and thinks I am too good for her.<p>Having an affair (believe me I understand your frustration) is something you will regret the rest of your life. I found my wife in her closet, curled up in a ball, bawling about what a scum she has become.....don't do that to yourself.<p>I definitely think his weight and possible depression (have you checked that out) has affected his testosterone level.......if his hormone is down, his sex drive will be to. We all have stress, but the male body reacts differently to it in different people. He needs to see a doctor. To have a beautiful girlfriend in her early 20's saying she wants more and for him to not want it, tells me there is a biological problem. Can you get him to a doctor, maybe a nutritionist?