We are not in marital therapy because WS will not go. The reason given fir this is that they will not be made to feel like the bad guy here or that this is all their fault, even if I agree that this is not all WS fault. Also WS has not read any of the books I purchased off this web site. WS thinks if we just forget about it and never bring it up that it will all go away. I will take the split vote and for now let the "no contact letter" go. But if OW persist then I will write the OW if WS won't.<P>------------------<BR>Healing in NC