CinDrLa:<P>It's is so weird, I feel like I'm in the twilight zone!<P>Lots of times I think, why would I even want H back, or how could I ever deal with that (after what H has done). I wonder I'm not addicted and in a fog? It's like H HATES me?<P>I wonder if after awhile all the love will be stomped out of me? I would feel better. <P>At this point I don't think H's fog will lift. Seems H thinks he has done absolutely nothing wrong. I'm just discarded and H wants to erase me completely out of his life. <P>H's whole family has turned against me. I had more contact with them during our marriage than H did. It just makes me feel bad, so upset that some people can be so uncaring. They discard others like getting rid of a piece of trash. <P>Thank you and May God Bless.<P>

whatami:<BR> <BR>I'm trying, it's not easy. I'm just so overwhelmed with all of this. It's difficult to cope. I do feel like I've lost myself at this point. <P>Thanks for your response.<BR>May God Bless.<BR>

Thank you all so much for your responses, support, advice, etc. It means a lot to me and has really helped me. Unfortunately others do not understand, so you have all been my comfort. I greatly appreciate any replies. <BR>May God Bless all.<p>[This message has been edited by Hurtwife (edited May 22, 2001).]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Hurtwife:<BR><B>RE: But if that happened, wouldn't you rather that you and your husband were using your money and stuff, not the OW?<BR> I know by now I feel about brain dead, but I'm not sure what you meant here? <BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hurtwife,<P>I meant, <B>if</B> you and your husband should reconcile after going to court, the only way you two could use your money and stay in your house is if you protect it now. <P>I know it may seem that protecting yourself means giving up on the marriage, but acutally they are two separate things. Your H is not treating you right now. That may change in the future; neither you nor I know that. But you have to live in the present no matter what tomorrow may or may not bring--and no matter what the past has brought.<P>Take care of yourself first. Then you can decide what to do about the marriage. <P>Be well, hurtwife.<BR>--HBC

Agree totally w/HBC on this one. Better to take care of yourself now, because u don't know what the future will bring. U and H may not get back together, if that happens at least you will know that financially u can take care of yourself and that will be one less worry off your mind. Take care of you first and foremost!

HurtButCoping:<BR>trying2_4give:<P>I know your right...thanks. I'm having a hard time because I am so emotionally, mentally, and physically drained. It's difficult to find the strenght and motivation to fight. <P>H's & OW's attitudes are beyond my comprehension. The demeanor of their actions are outrageous. OW acts like she is the wife and I'm the OW.(unreal) These people have no conscience or guilt. To top it off H wanting MY belongings for OW...the audacity.<P>If H keeps this up, my love bank could be depleted to the point I wouldn't want him back.<P>Thank you so much for your advice. It helps me to have the support, as I'm out here all alone in this battle. <P>May God Bless<p>[This message has been edited by Hurtwife (edited May 23, 2001).]

Hurt,<P>You said you and your H owned the business? Is your name on it? You better get that straigtended out as well. If they are driving it into the ground you could be liable for the debts. Depending upon the type of partnership.

Pahakissa1:<P>I did ask an attorney about that, he said I wouldn't be liable for debts since H is a sole proprietor. I'm not sure if he knew what he was talking about. This was a free consultation.<BR>