I don't know what time frame you're talking about. I will tell you that my life and marriage was destroyed 6 years ago by my H and my best friend. We were separated for almost a year and he finally came out of his fog. We have been to counseling alone and together. Yes, it's very hard but I'm glad I didn't throw in the towel back then. Good luck, don't rush into anything. My counselor says divorce is a short term solution to a long term problem. Something to think about?