1. After an A is exposed, is it common for the WS to start asking for a D? If so, why?<P>Can't say for others, but for me the marriage was in emotional withdrawal, and divorce was a logical next step (wife had repeatedly made same suggestion). In the meantime quite unitentionally a friendship was made with ow which led to a relationship. I am not sure one implieds the other, is just messy life.<P>2. When faced with considerable proof, why do WS's continue to deny the A? Is it to keep from facing the reality of what they've done? Is it to spare us any more pain?<P>spare you the pain. <P>3. Can recovery begin without WS admitting the A?<P>no<P>4. What are the most common signs/symptoms of withdrawal or guilt?<P>hair trigger irritation, physical withdrawal, depression<P>5. When the BS shows sincere changes and eliminates LB's, does this sometimes anger the WS's (i.e. their justification for the A is gone)?<P>no, any anger the ws exhibits belongs to them..... but they are very sensitive to manipulation, and/or guilting efforts.<P><BR>

snl,<P>In reponse to your reply to #4, my W has become very irritable towards our daughter, jumps on her for every, little thing. She's not this way with me, but then again I've gone out of my way not to irritate her. She has physically withdrawn more than ever. Sleeping on the couch every night. A few times when I've tried to kiss her goodbye, she kind of turned her head. She's had on and off periods of a few days where she seems depressed or kind of lost in herself. I don't know how to explain it, kind of there but not really there. <P>Regarding your reply to #5, I'm not really sure what you mean by their anger belongs to them. Can you elaborate?<P>sad dad