Remember, Disgraced, when you mentioned the thread which said all the BAD stuff about the OM or OW? That should tell you that we weren't in our right minds. You know the kind of high you get when you have a drink or a cigarette, or (god forbid) drugs?? That's the kind of high I had with the OM. I overlooked everything that was important to me, didn't see ANYTHING clearly - most of all my H. Yeah, now I do... but as you know, the damage is done. It's a NEW marriage now. And that's how it has to be. I'm wiser now. My H is wiser now (remember, he was unfaithful 12 yrs. ago). Hopefully, we are working toward a BETTER marriage. But as far as that phenomenon you mention: it's the HIGH and it blinds you.<P>------------------<BR>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<BR>