H2Y,<P>I couldn't agree with you more, but what if my W just doesn't love me anymore and OM is just a convenient diversion. I guess that's a question that can't be answered until he's out of the picture.<P>I'm not giving up on my W because I don't believe she's completely given up on me. If she had, she would have filed or left by now. Something is preventing her from doing that.<BR>I can only hope it's her love for me that's buried deep down below her feelings for OM, the pain I've caused her, the guilt of tearing our family apart or her confusion about everything. As hard as this is for me, I'd rather be in my shoes than hers.<P>sad dad