Hi Orchid. Wow! I just got to this now. Glad to hear you were finally able to get it all out. <p>Did you find out anything since Saturday? One suggestion I have for you is to set aside a time to talk about these issues and not to try and sneak it in whenever you are talking to your H. Like when he calls from work, you shouldn't continue your conversation from earlier because you both know you won't have time to finish it.<p>Put it off until the appropriate time that you BOTH agree to.<p>Also, you should have an agreement in place ahead of time that says whether or not you will listen to these messages and/or he will let you delete them. I can understand how he would get defensive in this case and delete them. It still sounds fishy, but if you have a plan to start off with them, he can't weasel out of it. Give him the benefit of the doubt this time,but make things clear so that it won't happen again.<p>You can't stop OW from calling, but you can work on an agreeable response from your H.<p>And, by the way, WHY DON'T YOU HAVE THAT FREAKING RESTRAINING ORDER YET? If ever I have heard that someone needs it, it is psycho babble. I say just do it. If your H is serious, I don't see why he wouldn't go along with it...<p>Good luck. Thanks for the update. Hugs.
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Orchid,<p>I've been wondering what was going on with you. So glad that you finally shared it with us. You need to do that more because you are carrying a very heavy load. My heart goes out to you. Don't know if I could ever endure what you have... don't think I could. <p>You are a remarkable women, know that you are an inspiration to many. <p>{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<p>
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