I never said that I was perfect. Nobody is.<p>When we started going out, I would mention how needy somegirl was. I understand that I wasn't the most compasionate when it came to her needs. I would say things like 'don't depend on me for your happiness go out and have fun'. I all but pushed her into an affair. <p>You could say that we were perfect on the outside, but on the inside we had issues. Issues that neither one of us wanted to confront. <p>I understand my contribution to the state of our relationship and my understanding of her before anything happened. I am pleased to say that given that understanding I know that me and somegirl will be able to remain friendly if we are able to work it out or not. <p>I became better(not perfect) over time and the state of our relationship over the past year or so has been quite fullfilling. My only problem is that when we are doing our best together is when I find out about all of this junk and it has set us back to square one.<p>We have been talking alot over the past few months. More than we have ever done before. Who knows, if we can make it through this we can make it through anything.