Hi, <p>I have sent an e-mail to tempest. I have not received a response yet. I will update the board if I hear anything. Usually tempest will put in her own post. All your concerns are valid and appreciated. <p>I am worried also. Been hearing this stuff way too much. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Thanks,
L.

Father, we pray for about2die and we ask that you intervene. Make him aware of the hurt and pain, for life, that he will cause his children. Make him see that they will never get closure and always live with a hole in their souls. I pray, Lord, that you will protect him from this irrational feeling of suicide and show him what he has to live for. We pray for the right help and support for him and his children. <p>God, give about2die the ability to love his children selflessly and to find help and strength in You for their well-being. <p>In Jesus' name, Amen

Wow! I know how you feel, exactly!!! I too was in your shoes. I thank God I was able to come to my sences and make a decision to pay attention to myself and my children and stop dwelling on my wayward wife. Some one told me "that which does not kill you will only make you stronger" Well I can tell you its true. Not only was it true, I was able to hold my head high, roll up my sleaves and get busy picking up the pieces and guess what? Not only did I make it through what you are going through, I saved my marraige too! There is hope!!!!
You sound like a man who believes in the Lord. Well then, I consider you my brother!!! We are brothers in the Lord and as I read your post I began to realise that you where reaching out for proof that suicide was sin and that God would disaprove of your final decision. As someone pointed out already, God said Thow shalt not kill. He did not say "other than yourself". No matter how you look at it whether you kill someone else or yourself it is killing and when your dead it will be too late to repent (turn around) and ask for forgivness. God also says in
1 Corinthians 6:19 "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body."
Another Scripture that I hold onto when I am against all odds is Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me; for I am gental and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Wow, what a comfort to know that you are not alone! Remeber the Lord said "knock and the door will be open" Brother, you can do it and you will be stronger. Later you will look back and realise the good that has come from all this turmoil.
You have so many friends here that you don't even know yet, you are not alone!!! Talk to us and share your pain that you are feeling and we will help you to deal with it, remember so many of us were in your shoes and feel the pain you feel now. If you want to hear more of what God has to say about anything you are dealing with I will be glad to talk with you either here or you can
e-mail me at- stillhurts2001@yahoo.com<p>There is hope, I am living proof. <p>Stillhurts

ab2d, <p>Please let us know how you are doing.<p>L.

Please let us know how you are, I am worried about you, as I know many others out there are. It is hard to deal with the cruel actions of another, but you are worth far more than she is conveying... you are a special valuable individual - you are a child of God's and you are precious as a human being. We are all special, we all deserve love in our lives, be patient and take care of you for now... if need be, go to emergency room for help... there is help in yuour city, I am sure you know someone local who you can talk to if not let us know, I am sure we can call you, here's my personal email, lisaannsmail@yahoo.com, I am here and will be cking in over and over to see if you are ok, prayers to you now. HUGS, HONEY.<p>..008h+6hv+ hbj+ g9ghgh+9bh j99ugk8u9hg98h-g+ gh+--gh -9gf+9vgb+hj+9j+9n+9h+9g+9jh+9
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Ok I hear you people. About killing being against everything God stands for. People are forgiven for that broken commandment throughout the Bible. All other commandments are forgiven too. The question is can one be forgiven before they commit a sin?
There is only one unforgivable sin in scripture. There should be no debate over that, right?<p>I never said I have been here for six months. I said I have been doing what you people call plan a for six months. this site simply showed me I was doing it right.

The question is can one be forgiven before they commit a sin? <p>
NO!!! You must ask for forgiveness and repent of your sins. After you die it is too late!!! Don't test God. Look you are throwing in the towel way too soon, I'm telling you there is hope for you, and your kids will only suffer if you kill yourself. That is not the answer, and is only the selfish thing to do.
How many kids do you have and how old are they?
Please talk to us, we can you sort this mess out. What you are feeling is totaly understandable!!! When I found out that my wife was involved in a full blown afair, I was crushed and felt the same way you do now. I'm telling you there is hope, talk to me... I'm sitting here waiting for you to reply.. <p>Stillhurts

Brother,
Have you ever read the book of Job?
After Job had lost everything, his house, livestalk, children, all his riches..... and after all that Satan afflicted painful sores from the soles of his feet to the top of his head and his wife said to him "are you still holding on to your integredy (pride)curse God and die" Job replied "you are talking foolishness. Shall we only except good from God and not trouble?" <p>In James Chapter 1 verse 12 it says, "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him".<p>Don't let Satan win here!! Satan does his evil work through the mind and brother his is messin with you big time!! Don't fall for his lies!! <p>I'm still waiting to hear from you...<p>
Stillhurts

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email wylderchild@onebox.com

I am going through exactly the same emotions of grief, anger, resentment, rejection as you. H left in 09-01 moved in with OW on 12-01. Children spending two weeks with H & OW. Very, very painfull. Spend Xmas eve alone crying, very very lonely. Asking God Why' Why' - I committed myself to God and I know that through this crisis I will only grow and learn. Sometimes I am very impatient and expect things to come right immediately but as time goes on I know that it will come right in God's time. Joined Al-Anon to help with my recovery as I believe that an affair is an addiction. Could not find any support groups for adultery. I cannot give you advice as I am still going through extreme sadness and pain but I believe through all this pain and suffering some day I will be able to be happy again.

Hi Ab2d,<p>I have a moment but wanted to thank you for responding. Now how can we help you? <p>Please understand that forgiveness will not help your children if you are not there. <p>The priority right now is to those you love and who love you. Right? <p>I understand and feel your pain. So do many here. This is not just a saying. It is real. <p>I have been as much in despair as you are right now. My story will make you laugh, cry, get angry and wonder why does she put up with all this crap? But if it helps you I and others would be willing to share a piece of their life story just to help you. <p>Keep posting. <p>Thanks,
L.

Hi, <p>Can someone let us know who will be able to e-mail AB2d? <p>Thanks,
L.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Orchid:
<strong>Hi, <p>Can someone let us know who will be able to e-mail AB2d? <p>Thanks,
L.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I'm trying to talk with him now, I'll post again later.....<p>SH<p>[ December 26, 2001: Message edited by: stillhurts ]</p>

about 2 die,<p>Lokk, not to be harsh sounding or anything, but, I have had that feeling too, My wife left me for someone else, and she wants a D. But I will NOT give up. <p>Give God a chance, though it may not seem like it now, there is more in the "big picture" that we cannot see and cannot understand, we can only trust in God.<p>So just don't do this, see someone, talk to them, let out some of your feelings, it's not much of a consolation, but trust me it WILL make you a better person fo trying.

AB2d,<p>I'm so thankful you are talking to us! Things can be better. Please let MBers help you through this.<p>Estes

Stillhurts,<p>Thanks. Please keep us posted. <p>L.

I'm talking with him, keep posting and praying for him. I belive a miracle is happening right now....<p>SH

Stillhurts, <p>Thanks so much. I am sending my prayers right now. <p>AB2d, <p>You have a good supporter there. Stillhurts has helped many. Our prayers and support are with you both. <p>Take Care,
L.

Thank you stillhurts.<p>I have been praying for you since your first post, AB2d. Continuing to do so.<p>Estes